I love & trust my husband dont think he would ever cheat but still have bad thoughts how do i deal with it?

Married for about 7mos.My husband is currently deployed in korea. He isnt allowed to go off base cuz he has a restriction. Since he has been there he has already told me of different incidents of spouses cheating. I love him with all my heart %26amp; maybe its cuz Im pregnant %26amp; my hormones are going crazy but when he doesnt call I wonder what he is doing. He has never given me any reason not to trust him he tells me everything %26amp; there is no doubt in my mind that he loves me %26amp; would never cheat on me.Maybe its my own insecurities but when he doesnt call it just worries me what he might be doing.We get to talk usually twice a day. But sometimes like today my sun am was his sun pm we didnt get to talk cuz he wasnt in his room and he didnt come online after we said we would meet at a certain time. Has anyone gone through this before %26amp; how did you get over it? I havent told him about these feelings. Has anyone loved someone and had bad thoughts when you werent suppose too?I love %26amp; trust my husband dont think he would ever cheat but still have bad thoughts how do i deal with it?
It will depend on his morals and beliefs. Does he believe n marriage? Does he think family is the most sacred thing ever?


Well, my experience is this: My husband and I share the same values. Of course I want to make sure he is being faithful to me during deployment and deep inside I know he is. During deployments he behaves just like he behaves at home with me. It's all about me and him, he doesn't go to bars and stuff. However, his friends are not the same. They treat their wives like crap, go to bar together during the weekends and leave their wives behind, even when they are about to deploy. They are able to cheat either on post or in Iraq, Korea, Japan, wherever. My husband told me they cheathed on their wives during deployment... Was it a surprise for me? No, not at all. So like I said, it will depend on the type of husband you have while he is with you... You tell us...





About him being late to call or get online, remember those guys work 8 hours shift, but it's not always like that. Sometimes my husband had to work for 12 hours while he was supposed to have a day off, so I wouldn't have that kind of feelings. Open up your heart to him and tell him how you feel.





Good luck with this deployment and if you need to talk just drop me a msg :)I love %26amp; trust my husband dont think he would ever cheat but still have bad thoughts how do i deal with it?
If you are married to a Marine, I wouldn't worry about it. They take that sort of thing seriously. Most married Marines I knew stayed true to their wives while the rest of us raised hell.
All the time sweetie, all the time. I am guilty of that thought and doubt. My fiancee is deployed now, and I was used to talking to him everyday but when they put him on a assignment I was not able to talk to him all the time, heck any of the time it seems. But he is working and roaming the streets of Baghdad while I worry he could be doing something else, b/c I too know that some soldiers cheat during deployments. But every time I talk to him, I feel bad for having those thoughts, while he is there working hard to not only serve our country but stay alive. Not saying that cheating can't happen. But alot of men don't. My advice is trust him, even when its hard. He hasn't given you a reason to mistrust him, its just our fear, b/c we as wives know it can happen. Save all of your emails from him and instant messages and read them during the times he is not there to talk to you, to remind yourself what great man you have. And trust him.





Take Care
One You either trust him or you don't.





Two: You are pregnant and alone right now. Its natural especially since its a NEW marriage.





Three: You need to keep up the communication; your phone bill is going to be astronomical (mine was a KILLER when I was stationed at Osan) and you are thankfully using the Internet. Do video conferencing by computer.





Four: Everyone has these thoughts, but remember - if he's been calling you so much when does he have time to fool around, he's got to work, eat %26amp; sleep. Don't expect him to be a barracks rat, that is a killer - self esteem and physical conditioning.





Are you staying in the house?


Get out, hit the library.


If you are near a base, go to the support center and talk to a counselor.


Is there a wive's support group?


Stay away from temptation - if you have gal-pals that like to go clubbing, find other things to do.





At least you are talking to us on line, my ex buried it.





You have a baby to get ready for; congratulations!!!!
He's OK, but give him some space because it's extra hard when you're away from your family playing military and being reminded everyday from the person that you love that you are far away. When he's lonely, the best thing for him to do is to be alone and ride it out till he come home. Please don't remind him that all of his love ones are a long way from home. Receive support from your family or the Military Support Group because a lady local is going thru the same thing and you are needed locally to help the next person.