Why do people say they cheated for a reason as if all those who did not cheat have no problems whaosoever?

It is a kind of rationalization every cheater resorts to just to hide guilty conscience .A postmortem determines the cause of death but not the intentions of the killer.The killer,the cheater in this case ,always gives tons of reasons as to what prompted him/her to kill like neglect,emotional support,sex(which like hunger no one can can ever have enough as it recurs) and so on and on .Why not end the miserable relation they are in ,which they have to do eventually ,before cheating their spouses?It takes lot more time and energy to get the hell up to one's neck in an affair ,while breaking a relation is so easy that most of the crucial matters viz,kids,finance, living separately etc, can be decided in a single sitting unless the other partner is a control freak or master of slaves. Courts or no courts,nobody can force another to be in a relation .When a cheater decides to cheat,he/she is fully aware of the consequences of their acts and the very fact that they would not stop cheating till something very drastic in happens proves what they truly desire, a secret lover.


More than anything else,it is opportunity that makes one cheat.Secrecy and opportunity bring out the best as well as the worst in us that we wonder at how subtly the transformation takes place or swoon at our success in wining somebody over like piece of cake.So cheater are basically opportunists who silently stalk till the right moment to make the kill(it is a double kill here,the spouse and the lover) comes along. If somebody can choose to be so callous in dealing with the basic unit of entire society, which is family,he/she definitely has the potential to run a concentration camp.These are the scums of the society and to justify their actions is more like supporting murder and mayhem.


Happy families are rare ,many couples fight and many more are unhappy but the cheaters are rarer kind.Many people in this world have money woes,some are really poor yet honest and hard working.Can I be thief or robber just because I am poor?Why do people say they cheated for a reason as if all those who did not cheat have no problems whaosoever?
Life happens and none of us are the same. Some of us have larger consciences than others. We love different that some, deeper than MOST too. WE put more emphasis into what it means to be devoted to someone and ';become one'; with them.





Some are more selfish than others and some of us are selfless and give so much it gets taken for granted even looked upon as weak...





Life happens as I said in my first line. God did not make carbon copies when he made us. Nor did he say we cannot pick and chose how we live our lives. But to become ONE with God is in a sense parallel to becoming one with your marriage mate.





Did you follow? Or were you looking for an argument?Why do people say they cheated for a reason as if all those who did not cheat have no problems whaosoever?
Cheaters are weak and rationalize their behavior by blaming everyone but themselves. Pitiful actually.
Correct the typos and you could easily write an excellent crime or dramatic novel!
I didn't read all that either but I would say it's hind site..maybe they don't know at the time why they feel drawn t cheat but after the fact and realizing the grass is not greener ,maybe it's only then that they can see what it was that attracted them.what it was that they were missing..


but I agree with the point that we all have problems and some never cheat..I guess it's a matter of weakness in some.





I'd like to give credit to those who cheat and look for excuses to blame you in order to justify it also.


some people just have no character or strength..maybe due to lack of maturity ? morals ?
Sorry I didn't read it all (way too long) but I can tell you people do things for reasons and when they get caught they then tell you the reasons. It does not mean that no one else has these feelings it just means that this is what they were feeling at that moment. It isn't a excuse it is what they were feeling. I am in no way justifying the behavior just defending the ability to state ones feelings that's all.