How to deal with them?

2 friends are married and decide that they want a divorce. So they start talking to other guys and get caught. They leave their spouses AND children to live with relatives. They were stay at home moms. And they are not with the guys that they were talking to. They write me and call asking me to go out but I don't see them in the same way that I use to. Wanting a divorce I can understand...Not cheating and NOT leaving their children. I don't even really want to talk to them anymore. How do I let them know without being mean?How to deal with them?
You want to do this without being mean. The problem with that is you cannot control the perception of others. You need to do what is best for you and your life. From what you have written it sounds as though you feel you need to distance yourself from these women. If it will be easier for you, you should send them an email explaining your need to distance yourself from them. You cannot control how they respond or perceive what you say but you are in control of your life and have the right to decide who you do and do not want in it. I suggest emailing them because that gives you the opportunity to fully express your feelings without interruptions and of course they can reply if they want to. I suggest telling them how you feel as soon as you can because you don't want to start making up silly excuses for your inability to spend time with them. You are making a smart decision.How to deal with them?
Be straight with them. Tell them you don't support their choices: leaving their children and cheating. Any time they want to get honest and to accept their responsibilities towards their children, well, then you might change your mind. Until then, however, it's not possible for you to be friends.


Make sure you use ';I'; statements (';I don't believe in cheating';; ';I put my children first';; ';I believe in honesty and openness in a relationship';).


Being honest with your ';friends'; is not mean. Accepting stuff they do which you strongly disagree with is lying to yourself and them. Now, that's mean!


Good luck!
You are a quality woman.


Tell them when they were married and responsible mothers you respected them. However watching them leave their children and cheat while married is unacceptable inapropriate behavoir. Your friends will not be happy with being called out and hearing the truth. So just be prepared to be attacked by them. That should seal the deal why you are better off without them.


Never compromise your integrity.


I am proud of you!!
just tell them your kids come first and you don't have the time because the kids take alot out of you.plus they are a bad seed,and you end ip where they are.that is just the way some peoples are they see you happie and if you let them they will destroy your life to.
Tell them you don't feel comfortable going with them because it's against your standards, and don't be ashamed of it, meanwhile you get into a good bible based church and get saved. Turn to Jesus, that's the


best way to live. [forever]
Just try telling them that you feel uncomfortable with the whole idea that they are married and are going out with other men. Or if you want to continue to remaing friends try setting up a way to interact that doesnt include meeting other men and going out.
I recommend to ignore them, since you dont want to talk to them anymore. They will eventually sget the hint that you dont share their idea of entertainment.
they are in the wrong


you are right on this


You may have to me the stand up friend in this situation


Tell them bluntly and leave it at that and walk away
Honest answer? They are now hoes so don't feel bad about not wanting to hang with them anymore.


(really...)
Just keep giving them a excuse when they ask you to go out with them. They will eventually stop asking.
I would just be honest regardless if they don't like it.