Remarrying and dealing with the ex.....does it matter who caused the breakup?

Anyone here have thoughts on when they marry someone who has kids with an ex and what type of relationship (for lack of a better word) to have when/if you have to deal with that ex?





Does the type of relationship a new spouse has with the ex spouse matter if the husband was the one who cheated on the ex?





What if the ex cheated on them (your current spouse)?





In other words, does it matter what caused the end of their marriage, as to how you handle your dealings with them, since they have kids together?Remarrying and dealing with the ex.....does it matter who caused the breakup?
You shouldnt have to deal with an ex wife/husband... period! I mean, you should be nice and somewhat friendly since their kids will be with you, but as far as their fights (which WILL happen from time to time) and dealing with the kids, keep yourself out of it. You shouldnt feel any need at all to be all buddy-buddy with them or to hold long conversations. That's your new spouses past, not yours. Let them deal with it the way they see fit, just make sure the ex isnt tearing you and your spouse apart or being rude to you (as the new wife/hubby) because they may just be jealous. Support your spouse no matter what and make sure their kids know that they can come to you if they need to talk and that you will keep it to yourself. The kids need someone they can trust because divorced parents and remarriage is hard on them... I've been that kid before.Remarrying and dealing with the ex.....does it matter who caused the breakup?
It hasn't mattered in my case.





Infidelity (A symptom) ultimately ended our dying marriage. And now I'm remarried...my Now Husband picks up my daughter from the Ex, when it's our week...and there's no issue at all.





The Ex Husband is going to be getting married here soon...She has no children, but treats my daughter like her own.





When our daughter has an event...for school, or just a social event...we all attend. His folks. My Folks...and our spouses.





We're all making it work for HER. It's as good as it can be, and it's working out great!
It only matters if you are the one he cheated with.





If you are the one...you can expect negativity.





Either way, you need to approach her with respect.





She is the mother of his children.





The children are the victims in the divorce.





The children do not need any more drama than


they have already experienced.





Best wishes
Listen you should treat the x the same way you would want to be treated. The more of a friendship you can form with this person the better it will be for all involved especially the children. And no it doesn't matter what or who caused the break up. Good luck and God bless
What happened between my husband and his ex is none of my concern.





She did cheat on him, with multiple men. They divorced. End of story It's not my business.





I see her on a weekly basis, as they have kids together, we are cordial and polite.
I haven't done it but I have found (I'm a teacher) a professional type relationship works best. Your concern is the kids, nothing else. If the affair, money, etc. affects the kids, then it is your business, but not until then.
No it shouldn't matter. You should try to be civil for the children. You never know the situation until you hear both sides of the story which I don't think that you should but I'm saying that you should not judge.
You shouldn't be concerned about what happen in a ex relationship !


I sure hope you don't go ask the ex what happened !

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