How do you deal with you spouse when you NEVER agree on anything? ?

My husband and I are trying to work on our marriage, we are currently separated, due to TONS of issues. My main one is, I feel like if I don't agree with him or see things his way, then he calls me slow, or an idiot. IT's not that I don't get it, it's that I don't agree! Then he feels like all that we have been thru, is the past and just forget about it and move on. It would be easy for me to say that if I wasn't the one hurt, if I wasn't the one lied to and cheated on. Then he said I'm not ready to be back with him b/c I still don't trust him.....I feel like he is directing that towards me, when HE'S the one that cheated, but I'm not ready?!?!?! I just don't get it?? How do you deal with a person that only see their way and call you an idiot or ';those slow friends that you talk to ruin you brain'; when I feel that lot of what he says is off the wall, but yet never talk down on him? Any advice would be helpfulHow do you deal with you spouse when you NEVER agree on anything? ?
i agree with contessaHow do you deal with you spouse when you NEVER agree on anything? ?
you don't deal with it??? you get rid of him and find someone else that your compatible with.
What would I do? Stop bothering to try to work on something that is past the point of being worth it. Find someone who respects you enough to not call you names or belittle you for disagreeing with their perspectives.
He is the one who cheated, so the ball should be in YOUR court. He is being very manipulative by making it your fault. It is really up to you, not him, about how this relationship turns out. He is the one who made the mistake, you have to decide if you can and should get past it.





Ask yourself: why do you want to stay in the marriage? What will he have to do specifically to help you heal from this?


Then ask yourself, if you won the lottery, would you stay in the marriage? If the answer is no, you are just staying in for financial reasons. Try to improve your financial situation and get out. Remember, no one should be verbally abusive to their spouse. It sounds like he may be that to you.





Good luck.
the best thing is stay separated.you sound as if you are a victim of something..cheating maybe? it seems that you are still in pain.you do not have to force yourself to trust him if you feel you cannot trust him.let things stay the way they are.give yourself space and time to understand everything...if you are unhappy then you are unhappy.let it be for the moment.maybe someday if he will realize that he has his shortcomings and wants you back or you want him back,then....you can act with a clear mind.you cannot do nothing to change a person's character.but you can do something for yourself...you have the choice.
divorce
Consider a divorce since people who are mind controllers only get worse as time goes by. How many more years of this can you take without going mad and proving him right?


If you don't believe in divorce for religious reasons, then find a way to get him to a counselor; he needs to know that he is controlling and abusing you and needs to change his ways.


But, wait... you said he cheated... as in adultery? Well, most people would agree that a divorce is in order.
narcastic personality disorder - that is what your husband has.





if you can live with it then be the door mat because it will always be about him.





Advise would be to leave now!!
I think you should give us more details before submitting this question I can't really answer this question because of the lack of information. Next question please.