How do you deal with a partner/spouse that is too clingy?

My brother has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for 4 years and she is very jealous, controlling, and possessive. She makes a big deal out of him wanting to spend time with his friends from college. Picks fights with him even when he just wants to hang out with the family without her. I have witness this several times. She will call him several times when he is not with her, asking him questions and when he will be going home. She is a very nice girl but she is too clingy. I try to stay out of it but my brother is stressed and angry all the time, several times he has yelled at her on the phone and hung up on her. I ask him why don't he just turn his phone off, he says because she will think that he is cheating on her. I know for a fact that my brother has not cheated on her, my brother and I tell each other everything-and I mean everything, so he would have told me if he had stepped out on her. He really loves her and want their relationship to work out. But he is at his wits end with this craziness. What would you do?How do you deal with a partner/spouse that is too clingy?
i think your brother will just have to get fed-up enough. there is nothing that he can do/say to make her feel like a secure mate. that is the thing that he might not realize. when he succumbs to her demands, it almost encourages this behavior from her. he could easily be like, 'listen, my friends are important to me, i want one night a month to spend it with them...' or 'i just need some alone time with family.' that is not unreasonable.How do you deal with a partner/spouse that is too clingy?
People becomes clingy when they are not listened and they loss confidence in the relationship. That's why they easily get jealous, controlling and possessive. Ur brother should tell her his where about. And then tell her that how long it will take and also tell her that he does not like any disturb. And always tell her that she is beautiful and he loves him so much. And also listen to she when she talk, and spend some times together.
Your brother needs to get some b.a.l.l.s. and stop allowing her to treat him like crap. As long as he allows this, she will never change.He should turn off his phone when she calls just to let her know he's not going to put up with it. He needs to have a talk with her about her insecurities and trust issues..let her know that her behavior is unacceptable and if it continues, he's leaving her. And he has to be a man of his word..
encourage her to get something to do that she will gain self-confidence and friends by doing. if that doesn't work, chances are she will never change and he should deal with it or leave.
This relationship is destined to continue on this track, and if he EVER thinks that marrying her will help her feel more secure, he's dead wrong. She has a very low opinion of herself, poor self-esteem, extreme insecurity.... and she thinks he is supposed to fix that in her. He can't. It's for her to fix. She needs some serious long-term counseling (and I am NOT talking about couple counseling), but my guess is that she doesn't even see this is about her. What would I do? Well, in all honesty I never would have gotten to four years with someone like this. Personally I would end it.... now.
Your brother WILL get fed up with it and walk away.





I just went through this with my 17 year old daughter and a guy she was dating a year younger than her....He was ALWAYS - calling, texting, my space messages -- you name it he was into her business in every way possible. Now she didn't see it at first and they were together for 5 months but at the end of that 5 months she began to feel like she was being smothered. Every time her phone would go off we would say ';oh your tether is going off again';....and laugh knowing it was him.





She finally realized that she wasn't being allowed to live her life that he was so entangled in her life she had lost all parts of herself.





When she broke up with him it was still a little bit stalkers afterward but then it ended to nothing......





He will tire of it and walk away -- give it a little bit of time -- just keep pointing things out she is doing and how much she is controlling his life and that he isn't himself anymore it's like he has turned into her 'toy' not boyfriend and he will really begin getting hints....