Him knowing you can live with his adultry will only allow him to do it more. Get on with your life while you still have one.How do I deal with knowing my husband wants to have sex with a prostitute while overseas on business?
Make sure you have safe sex and have him tested before you let him touch you again. Start siphoning off money from his accounts to get read to boot his sorry *** out.
No business deal is worth cheating on your mate, unless you have openly defined your relationship as open. If that were the case you wouldn't be posting here for comfort. I personally do not agree with his cheating and you should not accept it. If you do accept it, just know that you will question yourself and your self worth for years to come.
Good luck and get professional counseling. You're going to need it - before and after he gets back.
Tell him no! If you can wait for him he can wait for you. This will ruin your marriage and nothing will ever be the same again. You tell him you are making sacrifices to and this would hurt you very deeply. Tell him please don,t ask me to allow you to do this .........let him know that sex with a whore is never safe not even with a condom.......If he intends on coming back to you he should never play with your life like that! Ask him to masturbate if he needs to but don't do that because it would just kill you. soooo sorry.
I'm sorry but you have a stupid asz husband. Marriage is about commitment and I am one of the biggest asz holes, but not yet married and even I know that. I will never cheat on my wife after I get married. I reccomend that you divorce hi if he is suck an asz hole. Listen to me.
his excuses are lame. hes an admitted cheater. he hasn't cheated with the local girls yet only because they aren't his type? how about he hasn't cheated because he loves you. sounds like you need to find your real soul mate. take his money and run.
Ewe get rid of him who wants a STD from an overseas prostitute YUCK
dun be stupid. what kind of excuse? close a deal? WA HA HA. get him out of ur life...n tell him not pass any diseases to u.
You are in a tough position. I am not sure why your husband is so honest. Its a fact that guys do things like this when they go overseas. Not that I agree with it.
If he wants to do it, theres not much you can do to stop it. Try talking to him when he is sober and tell him how you feel. Would you rather he not tell you about it though?
Perhaps you could also ask him what he thinks about you visiting a gigolo.
I say let him do his thing but make sure he uses protection. He will come home to you and bring the bacon. Obviously he has already done this before and he is just trying to get consent to ease his guilty consciences for further ventures.
If you really love him then you would know what the real answer is to this questions already.
And if he really loved you, then I doubt he would put you in this situation.
divorce the corporate slime
I kind of agree with you here. He should just relieve himself in an auto erogenous way. Aside from the potential STDs he can bring back and share with you, he is not living up to his half of the contract, which I assume you are living up to. In this regard, not to put too fine of a legalistic point on it, he is in breach of contract.
That said, if you ';love him so much'; then perhaps you can love him enough to actually take some pleasure in his own joy. Like I said, I don't think you should be expected to feel that way, since, after all, you are resisting whatever temptation may come along for you, but sometimes one loves the other more than that other loves you. The fact that he gets drunk should set off some alarm bells. He is conflicted and needs to be numbed by the effects of alcohol. Perhaps he misses you and this is his compensation. On the one hand I would encourage empathy, but on the other hand I would advocate a keen eye into if he is being a selfish jerk without consideration for your feelings. As this is not an uncommon trait for men, it is worthy of some consideration. If he does love you, then he should be able to accommodate some parameters set by you in the interest of your own emotional well being. In other words, stand up for yourself. Do not tolerate chauvinism.
That is grounds for a divorce and I would divorce him in a heartbeat. To heck with it being a guy thing or it being expected from him! What about you? You're the one he promised to be faithful to. How can you ever trust him again?! What if he catches an STD? What if he brings home something worse than a guilty conscious? There is no excuse for that kind of behavior!!!!
His actions are unacceptable and they clearly show he has no respect for his marriage. Time to rethink life's plan! There's a man out there that will be for you and only you! Have more respect for yourself than this! You're husband is out of line... no if's and's or but's! He's also a drunk! The end ...
Yes overseas are different and it is hard to say no. Peer Pressure sucks but if he really does love you than he will respect you and not do it. Just be careful he doesn't bring anything home.
To tell u the truth...........thr is no doubt tht ur husband is very smart cheater...........actually he only want to enjoy and
it can be with any woman.............he possess no love for u......
so if u r wise %26amp; want live a life full of peace and happinness........then after receiving this answer just throw
divorce papers on ur husbands's face ............%26amp; tell him tht thr is no forgiveness for cheating on a loving wife...........
Wish u all the luck to face the truth and take immediate decision for ur future.............
You love yourself so much that you are allowing this man treat you this way? NO. ARE YOU SERIOUS THAT YOU WOULD ALLOW SOMEONE TO WALK ON YOU LIKE THIS AND YOU ARE OK WITH THIS?? You need to find some of your respect that you lost being married to this butt hole. You need something to power you while he is gone. May I suggest, finding a thrill seeking hobby while he is gone to get your power back. You sitting there with your thumb up your butt while he is out doing what he wants and you accepting it, IS SHAMEFUL. FIND YOUR DIGNITY FOR GOODNESS SAKES!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU DESERVE ONLY THE BEST IN LIFE, THIS IS THE ONLY LIFE YOU HAVE, AND YOU ARE LIVING IT SO MISERABLE? LETTING SOMEONE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU? FIND SOME STRENGTH AND WORTH FOR YOURSELF. THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE, I DON';T CARE WHAT COUNTRY HE IS DOING BUSINESS WITH. His business should be with you, and he is so fired for doing such a crappy job.
Leave his ***, he's not worth it. This is so messed up. You deserve better. Trust me. Please.
Your relationship should be more important to him than any business deal. I think his honesty is a bunch of bull. He is enjoying himself toooo much. He just wants you to agree with him. Wake up and smell the coffee. You are worth so much more than to be treated this way.
even the men on here are saying thats not right, leave him, that should tell you something. if hes looking for someone that is his ';Type'; personally I would think because he wants it more than just once. if it was just to get his rocks off, anyone would do.
first he says he did it because the others were doing it, then he says he didn't ';yet';. Right. he has done it. Now, what do you do. enough of this so called honesty thing. we all want to be honest with the one we love. however, he is using this as a pass-he tells you that he is only ';being honest';, and you are supposed to roll over. don't buy it!! You both made vows. Both of you. not just one or the other. tell him that when he comes home he has to have blood tests for sexual diseases before you and he can have relations, and get counseling now--also line up an attorney--honey,this in not a game--this could be your life be smart
the only deal he was trying too complete is satifying his cheating heart.....divorce the liar
Tell him no way will you allow this and send him his divorce papers.
are you retarded??
he is cheating on you and you come here and ask what to do??
This man does not love you and is telling you his own personal needs/desires are more important to him than your feelings and your health.
He is willing to sleep with a prostitute that sleeps with perhaps hundreds of men and then come home to you and spread whatever disease he has contracted to you.
If you feel that you are worth so little to deserve that, then so be it. But let me tell you, you are worth more than that man is giving you.
If he loved you, he would be willing to quit his job and be a pauper to not risk your love and your health. He can always find another job.
Go there and kick his ***!!!!!!!
You file for divorce. How would he like it if you cheated while he was away? He could bring back a disease.
What you need to do first is know that YOU are worth more then this. You are awesome and have so much love to give and he's taking advantage of you. He says he doesn't want to mess up unless it's worth it. Think about that, ok? Please. He wants a girl who's WORTH messing up his marriage. That's exactly what he says. So it's not just vagina. Even worse, He's looking for an actual person who's worth it. Sex is such an intimate thing. So is kissing. Look what he's doing to you. As a Catholic, I don't like promoting divorce but what he's doing to you is divorce. He's obviously trying to upset you. There's no sense in him upsetting you. Please move on and love yourself so you can find someone to love you as well. You deserve a man who sees just YOU and that's it!
men dont have to have sex to close the deal. he does n ot respect you or the promisses he made on your marriage day.his pride is getting the better of him, and if he can't contro himself when he drinks he needs to call it an earlynight with the boys. if he can not or will not change his behavior with marriage counseling then you need to let him go before he brings you a ';gift'; fom his buisiness trip that he can't return..what is that gift you ask? STD or worse HIV...think about it
if he cannot respect you and be faithful to you and only you he is not worth it. you should leave him and be strong. then he would know how important you are to him. but if he cheats on you he is a man who deserves nothing good in life. he does not have to cheat on you. he has a right to say yes and no. he does not deserve you. if he does it once it will never stop. i would leave him.
Tell him that if he betrays your marriage that you will divorce him.
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