How to stay faithful to your spouse?

Everybody despises cheaters and are quick to bash them when they post on YA. So, here is an opportunity for everyone to give practical ways to keeps people from cheating.





And NO, wedding vows and ';love'; obviously doesn't work. The bottom line is good people do some bad things sometimes.





Also the ol' ';once a cheater, always a cheater'; is useless as well, especially if we as a society don't offer practical ways to deal with the problem of infidelity. Saying all of that, what are some things we could do to overcome the lure of the temptation to cheat and at the same time keep our attractivness and sexuality in tact to the benefit of our spouse. (if no one else wants you, why would your spouse)





Oh yeah, for those of you that would never cheat or your spouse would never cheat because the love is so great, you are the exception because that is not today's reality.


I'll go first...Stay in prayer.How to stay faithful to your spouse?
I think it all starts with the wife. If she takes care of her man than he will take care of her. The man is the bread winner the provider (in my eyes) It is their nature. The women needs to appreciate what he does for her. A kiss when he comes home not a ***** feast. That is the problem with women today, they want to be equal to men and it just ain't happening. I could go on and on.How to stay faithful to your spouse?
i like to keep my man interested. if you keep your spouse interested like...trying different things or different places (adventurous) he doeesn't have a reason to go someplace else.


that goes both ways. put your effort and energy into your spouse instead of trying to find something that appeals to strangers or acquaintences.


P.S. I also agree with praying:)
seek medical intervention. if at your age you still dont' have any self control over your body, you need to be institutionalized...
I agree with staying in prayer, because the temptation to ';cheat'; is one of the reasons why we're taught to pray for deliverance from evil (sinful temptations).


Regardless of whatever reasons and/or excuses we have for having cheated, or for considering cheating..... it still comes down to a ';choice.';


Choose to overcome the temptation, through the strength (guidance, help) of Christ.


Choose to continue praying till the temptation is gone.
The fact is that religious Christians are no more or less faithful than they general population.





If someone cheats and gets caught, its probably because they wanted to get caught or didn't care if they got caught.





An occassional daliance that no one finds out about is no big deal; when someone is doing more than that, it isn't about they sex; they want out of their marriage anyway.
How to stay faithful? Simple, don't cheat. It actually is that easy.





People don't cheat because they fall into it or they just make a mistake. They cheat because they make the CHOICE to cheat.





The problem of infidelity can only be dealt with by teaching young people and showing them with examples that being faithful means exactly that. If the adults and the media would set the right example then the young people would have a better chance. Our morals have crumbled and it is showing. Everything is acceptable now...see Jerry Springer or Maury.





If you start to feel distance from your spouse then it is your obligation to speak up and do something about it. Don't blame the other person and use it as an excuse to cheat. Communication could save a lot of marriages.





Marriage is work so people have to be prepared to do the work.





But how to stay faithful is easy, just don't cheat. It is letting everyone off the hook to say good people do bad things sometimes. He/she was a good person they just fell to temptation. NO, that should read we thought they were a good person until they made the decision to devastate their family and selfishly look for satisfaction outside of their marriage. Good people don't cheat.
i would agree.. i guess my bf cheated on his ex gfs quite a bit..





i'm not worried about him cheating on me.. as i think i'm what he was looking for


we love each other a lot.. we get along wonderfulling we never fight or aruge..





its perfect
You don't have to be married to be faithful. Usually a person cheats because they lack something. They might be insecure about themselves. They like the attention they're receiving at that moment. Relationships are hard work, and as things change so do you. But you need to ask yourself why are you cheating? Did you and your partner have a fight? Do you think that in a ';good'; relationship people don't argue or get mad at one another? When you cheat, besides hurting your partner, you are disrespecting and hurting yourself. Before you get into a situation where you're ';thinking'; you might cheat, step back and ask yourself why am I feeling this way? Make a mental note of all the good things you have experienced with your partner and what attracted you to them. How would you feel if your partner cheated on you? Think about all the times the person has been there for you and how you feel when your around them. Go through ';your list'; first. If this doesn't stop you, you need to seek help with a counselor there is usually a deeper reason. I do think people make mistakes but when they do they should at least learn from them, so as not to make the mistake again.
In your long spiel there's really no question asked. There is only one way to stay faithful - - do not engage in sexual activity with anyone but your spouse.


You're suggesting that no one can love a partner enough to not want sex with someone else.. I really feel very sorry for you.
My husband and I both cheated on each other. I cant speak for him, but I really believe my choice was totally out of character. I never in a million years thought I would ever do that to him and have dearly regretted it since. My way to stay faithful from here on out is, one, prayer (i agree), two, realizing and knowing that the grass is not greener on the other side, three, love (cliche...sorry), but if you truely love someone you will not want to hurt them and infidelity is THE most painful thing to endure in a marriage. I admire your attempt to keep all married people faithful. But you are right, in a perfect world. If people would only realize how much pain it causes. Speaking from my experience, if I could tell all of those out there that havent crossed the line yet, dont do it. IT IS NOT WORTH IT. It is so hard to get up in the morning and look at myself in the mirror, knowing the pain I caused my husband. Cheating is extremely selfish behavior and if one is that selfish, that they dont care about the pain they will cause the one they love, then they need to realize that cheating is also a self-induced painful situation, and since cheating is slefish, who want to hurt themselves? Who knows, this is a deep question and one could ramble on and on, like me and still not save the world. I wish you luck.
I think that people cheat when they feel like something is missing in the marriage.





I try to be my husband best friend - his wife and the mother of his children every day - WITH OUT nagging! lol lol





We also LAUGH ALOT!!!!





You have to be able to talk - openly and not hold grudges....and forget the past - you can't change it!





Good Luck....





Cheaters are not always cheaters - they just need to find someone to make them WHOLE and they are content!
Look into the cost of a divorce. Unless you spouse is completely heinous, this should divert you. I think Rob Roy said it best ';Your honor is a gift that you give to yourself.';
Think of all that you will put in jeopardy if you cheated. Think of all the good times, and realize that a lot of people think about cheating, but don't act on it. Also, having open communications with each other.
Y'know.... You're right.. Good people do bad things sometimes.....





Did you know that the saying ';You only have one true love'; is false? The fact is, out of the billions of people on this earth, you CAN have more than one true love...It's just impossible to travel the earth and meet everyone first.. lol...


The fact is this, we are humans and we all have sexual organs with sexual drives.... Just because you are deeply in love with someone and have committed yourself to them, doesn't mean it is no longer possible to have the sight of another human give you a tingly feeling in your undies.. Marriage, love, faithfullness is a CONCEPT... when sexual arousal is REALITY.


That's why we have communication..... Yes..you should remain faithful in a marriage because you chose to enter into such a thing... blah, i dunno, i quit
I think it goes back to your raising and the morals that have been taught to u as a youngster.


I think if two people have an understanding with the same values and morals then thats when it works the best.


U cant give all the time and get nothing in return. It has to be a mutual understanding all the way around.


There is so much temptation, that it takes a strong man to look the other way. Its about morals and commitment.


After all, it dont matter if a woman gave her man the moon, if he is gonna cheat, hes gonna.


To me, men are broken down in two categories......





1) the strong......that no matter what they come into contact with, they stay true to what they honestly believe in.





2) The weak.....that no matter what they come into contact with, they take full advantage and dont give a hoot about what they have at home. No matter how good she is to him.





Lets face it, it doesnt matter what u do. If the other person isnt strong enough, they will stray.


Its the thrill of the chase or the thrill of getting caught. Its a personality trait.





And think about it......Most of the people who cheat or leave for someone else.....they go to someone who isnt nearly as good as the one they had at home,





Food for thought.....Ever notice that men stay with women who treat them badly and Women stay with men who do the same?


It has nothing to do with what u give your partner.


It never has.





People dont talk anymore. They just find something that makes them happy temporarily.


Its the values that our generation and the future generation have been taught. Its too easy to find a temporary fix versus a lasting solution through communication.


Its truly a sad society we live in.
First off I am going to say this... ';I don't believe in divorce except in cases of abuse.';





That being said... lets first look and what marriage is. Marriage is or was originally meant to be a lifelong pledge to your partner. Hence ';as long as you both shall live'; Now if you read this contract and can't abide by it then why in the hell did you commit to it in the first place?





If you cannot have the phsyical and mental strength to stay commited to the one you were supposed to devote the rest of your living days to then you do not deserve to be married and you should never get married.





We are a weak specices we constantly are coming up with new ways to break contracts, backstab and undermiune processes that have worked for centuries past. For what?? Because we cannot own up to our mistakes so we write clauses and more contacts to make it look like we were in the right. Its stupid and really a shame.





So my answer to your question about how to keep people from cheating is this:





Ask yourself... Can I commit and have the power strength fortitude it takes to be devoted to my partner for the rest of my days???


If yes then by all means get married and have those relationships.





If No then please stay single that way you never can be accused of cheating becuase hey your single and living your life free of commitment. That and your good at doing what it takes to make things better for yourself and as long as you don't have to sacrafise anything of yours you can be happy.
I agree with you. Stay in prayer and also, be man/woman enough to stick to your word. If you promise to be faithful- then BE FAITHFUL.
If you Love your spouse then only LOVE your SPOUSE and you will last forever. cheating will got you with on one.