Monday, August 16, 2010

Bible scriptures about dealing with an adulterous spouse?

My girlfriend just found out her husband has been cheating on her for four months. They've only been married 1 year and 3 months. He blames it on her fighting and nagging, etc...I think he's just looking for a scapegoat. She's the least confrontational person I know. Very sweet and caring...she is sensitive, but anyway, I was just wondering if you know of scriptures relating to how someone should respond in this situation?Bible scriptures about dealing with an adulterous spouse?
The bible tells him he is not to cheat, and the bible tells her she is okay to divorce him.

He WAS just looking for a scapegoat. She could be perfect and he'd still fool around--some guys just are tomcats. If they want to fool around, they'll find an excuse.

Ater fifteen months, he can't really say he tried everything, anyway, can he...

Best of luck to your friend. Tell her not to give up hope-there are good guys out there who would never cheat.Bible scriptures about dealing with an adulterous spouse?
Blames goes both ways.

People often are very different in their house than they are in public and it's [too] common for spouses to start taking each other for granted right after the marriage. If she did that... a man just isn't capable of cheating if his women takes care of things at home. So if it was nine months of hell, yeah I see it happening.

The only other real alternative is he was coerced into the marriage (i.e. he didn't want to settle down, or didn't want to settle down with her) or he used her because she was good marriage material and would make a good mother (not something the guy usually does).

As-far-as scripture...

';And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.

Mark 11:25';
First of all, the scripture says, thou shalt not commit adultery. He is very wrong no matter what his excuse it. No one is at fault for his except him. No one is making him cheat. he did this all on his own. You never know what goes on behind closed doors, so don鈥檛 think she is an angel in this. There are always tow sides to every story, however, no matter the reason, it does not constitute cheating. I assume she is not cheating. She needs to confront him on this and decide if she can forgive him. If she can get passed it, then she is a bigger person than he is. If she cannot forgive him, then she needs to leave him and move on. there is no good that can come out of holding a grudge. It will eat away at her and ruin her life
The old fashioned treatment and thoughts are still relative using the exit door to the marriage. Once the reasons seem so trivial and casual like his why bother with the guy.He sounds like the main thing he needs to do is to grow up and be as mature as she is in the marriage. His excuse doesn't wash and she definitely made a poor choice for a husband......
Well, I don't know any scriptures in particular about the situation.

However, I do know (because my mother was divorced and worrying over it) that divorce isn't seen as wrong if the spouse is cheating. (I don't have the scriptures with me, though.)
Your question is answered pretty clearly in the Ten Commandments.
love thy neighbor
stone them to dealth !

1 comment:

slave2Christ said...

Is it just me or did anyone else catch the "my girlfriend" part of this question? How long ago did "your" girlfriend's husband find out that his wife has been cheating on him? For Paul is very clear in 1 Corinthians 7:10, 11 & 39 "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord."
My advice to both of you would be to repent. Tell "your girlfriend" to return to her husband or remain single unto the Lord. Know that I speak from personal experience in this matter and fo the longest time this has been the board in my own eye as well. God Bless

Post a Comment