How many of you had your spouse cheat on you and you?

forgave them and took them back? Did it work or not, you were always wondering weren't you? I said Tiger's wife would leave him she did, its just to much to deal with a cheater, you can forgive but NOT forget.How many of you had your spouse cheat on you and you?
Mine cheated, left and came back to stay with me because he has no ability to live on his own. I support the family, not financially depended on him. I feel trapped in my own house because I can't be rude or hurt my children. So, I let him stay in the house for the sake of the children and his health, but didn't forgive him and never forgot how much pain he caused in my life. We live in the same house, but live on our own way. I don't think I can forgive or forget. He never apologized for his long time affair or involvement with that married woman or showed remorse. We don't trust or love each other anymore.How many of you had your spouse cheat on you and you?
You can def. forgive. You can also realize that if you love someone you have to let it go and move past it. No forgiving does not come ever. But you can learn to get over the feeling of always wondering and that does get alot easier and you eventually feel like you have forgiven because you can let them go and not worry. this may take years. I think Tiger did it to many times that makes no sense he had no respect for his wife or his children or himself. YUCK can you imagine what kind of things he might have contracted from those woman. If you do it once shame on you if you do it twice shame on me!!! Some situations are different and I think that in tigers case no he will never be forgiven and but he might be forgotten
I forgave my first husband many times, kept hoping it wouldn't happen again but I kept catching him over and over again. Its something I don't think you ever forget, I think it destroys all trust and you never quite feel the same as you did, and eventually you just get tired and want out of the pain. With a cheater you just keep waiting for it to happen again, keeps you overly sensitive and on the verge of paranoia and its just not healthy to be emotionally upset all the time.
My husband cheated on me 2 1/2 years ago, before we got married. I was really hurt, and didn't trust him for awhile, and after that my brother-in-law's girlfriend tried to set him up with her cousin (while we were married!) and they ended up flirting a bit when he was drunk, again, I was hurt. It has taken two years to get over it, but I knew I forgave him the moment I found out. I love him so much. Recently I was unfaithful to him, and he took me back, and I feel confident in saying that our relationship is stronger than ever. It was hard, and very painful, but if you truly love someone, you never give up on what you two have together.





My step-dad cheated on my mom almost 6 years ago, and she took him back. It took awhile for her to trust him again, too. But she says they are happier than they have ever been. They will celebrate 10 years together this March.
I cheated. My husband forgave me. I know he hasn't forgotten, but he doesn't hang it over my head either. It doesn't get brought up. I also hold up my end of the bargain. If I go out with girlfriends, I stay in good communication with him. I always tell him where we're at. If I don't talk to him on the phone, I'm at least texting him all the time. Because he's still respectful of me, and have chosen to give me another chance and trust me, I return the respect and make sure I don't hurt him again.


But, I've learned, if the cheated on can't get past it, you'll never have a successful relationship. If the cheater doesn't really want to change, he'll do it again. Both of your hearts have to be in the right place to move on.





Good luck!
Each marriage is different. %26gt;%26gt;%26gt; Tiger was inevitable for him to go down....when your that high the only place is down......





Tiger's wife was a trophy wife to begin with. She wasn't in for the long haul.





She's gonna cost him 300 million but in the whole scheme of things he is gonna come back and make it all up. His problem will be a woman always taking him down in life. ~~ The next one coming along on in the pipe line...can't remember her name...but if he has ANY sense at all he will have something in writing to protect him better this time. He is thinking with the head between his legs not on his shoulders.





I didn't believe it when I first heard about him because I felt he was way too smart for this stupid behavior but I was wrong.





Would I forgive my spouse NO. But don't tell him....LOL...he knows me.....and he would already know I wouldn't. LOL.
I stayed becasue of my kids. We had no issues, my husband said he was happily married but just did something stupid. He does lots of stupid things but I love my kids and their happiness becasme my priority. I can better protect them staying together versus not. As far as my kids concerned its happy home. I never forgave or forgot what my spouse did. I dont trust him. It is an emotional roller coaster from day to day....I just suck it in and question if I did the right thing. Here are good days. I do love him and know he loves me, I just dont trust anymore and that hurts alot.
Goin through it right now, found out husband cheated with best friend, had a great marriage before... no, he didn't do it because I held out on him or our marriage was bad... sick of everyone blaming it on that. She was a bar slut and she was there... simple as that! We are in aggressive therapy now and are trying to save the marriage. There is so much love between us... and we really are so good together, he just made a stupid choice.





Now... the answer to your question... can it work? Yes, I think it can but you are right... I will always wonder. Can I live the rest of my life knowing that my husband is CAPABLE of cheating...? I don't know. But I will never know if I don't try.





And in reference to Tiger's wife... if she loved him it makes NO difference how much money was involved, she's devastated... and she'll go back. Watch...
Many couples have cheated and got back together again. As they get older they calm down and start preferring a quiet life. So if you can ride these bumps for a few years til you reach the calmer waters on the other side, and you will stay together.
you can forget too... as the past has no importance for today or tomorrow. so why carry it with you. unless you like to have a heavy mind.


I would forgive and kick out the cheater. I am not married yet. few more months to go.
My husband could be rich or poor, infidelity is something i have an issue with. If it was one person, i could get over it i think, cause I know we are all human, and I myself have found myself in positions and I can understand temptation.
My wife has been fooling around I know. It's possible I could be to blame too. For not giving her the kind of attention she wanted. I am trying to save our marriage but she thinks the grass is greener on the other side. It might end after 20 years.
i did for give my wife. it hurt me bad. it took a long time. but latter it became a turn on. she learned things that made our sex life great. i could not get enough of it. i saw her more sexy
I had an ex-wife who ';had the wandering eye';. It destroyed a 22-plus year marriage. And I now hope she burns in hell.
Yeah I dropped her like a hot potato,but lost my kid too, it's been 20 years, and my only regret is losing my son. My advice would be to run,run,run, if there are no kids!
Kill em with kindness and understanding then move on. If you had as much money as tiger then you'd leave too after you found out your with a dirty bag.
Would Tiger's wife have left him if he would have been skint. It's easy to walk away with a couple of million in your sky rocket.
My wife cheated on me with the young guy from the gym in 2008. Now I really don't think about it too much but sometimes I do.
I agree 100%. My husband did it and I could not get passed it and I knew I would bring it up again and again and I didi not want to live without trust, so I divorced him.
HA THATS FUNNY GOD.... HA HA.. dont know dont care.. as long as no one kills ya...