Online Affairs? Has anyone had a cheating spouse?

I just caught my husband having an online affair, lying about it, and going on dates with several women. His emails prove that he is trying to court several women. We have been separated since October with 2 small kids. We have been committed (or so I thought) since December on trying to work things out. This is a major blow since I am now understanding that he is a compulsive liar. My kids mention a woman by the name of 'Stacey' and when I confront him he denies it. Well lo and behold I found out who Stacey was. She watched my kids while he went out on a date and then he lied about it. He gets extremely emotional and upset when I confront him on his lies and tries to make me look like the bad guy. I know what this online community will do and tell me to divorce him which is already in the works. But is there anyone out here who is/was married to a compulsive liar? I'm just trying to cope with my feelings. He showed me some of his emails where he was making fun of me. I feel like a fool. I guess I'm just really scared of him trying to hurt me emotionally, physically, mentally, etc. Sometimes I just give in to him so that I can get more out of him like money and more visits with the kids. He calls the police at a drop of the hat and makes stories up. I lost custody of my children for awhile and gave into him so that I can gain back the realtionship with my kids. If anyone has any ideas on how to deal with a compulsive liar and a disgusting human being I would really appreciate it. My gut is to my knees right now. Thank youOnline Affairs? Has anyone had a cheating spouse?
Do NOT let someone place his inability to control his penis onto you.





Physical affairs never, EVER start with just ';hey, let's screw';. They get to know each other first (except in the case of Professionals, i.e. hookers).





So, he was unfaithful to you by having emotional affairs. Talking. Exchanging ideas. Sharing intimate conversations. Becoming EMOTIONALLY involved... all online.





It's not because you don't keep a clean house. It's not your appearance or hygiene. It's not because of ANYTHING you did. It's his weakness, his inability to control himself, and possibly an addiction problem. It would be impossible for him to stay faithful if he has an addiction to the computer chatting; he has the rationalization and expectation that he is somehow ';entitled'; to have his cake and eat it too. Then, he blames you, his boss, his life, his bills... whatever. The point is, he will never, EVER accept his part in this debacle.





You'll get through it. I did. I was married to a compulsive liar too. Then, I married another one... and he's probably online from work right now, chatting up his contacts. And I'll be dumping his lying cheating azz very, very soon. We don't have sex very often, so the disease part is not a concern for me. And he thinks I'm clueless and has no idea what he's doing.





Fool.





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So, you cheated on him? But HE'S THE COMPULSIVE LIAR? You lied to us - by omission - when you did not give ';the entire picture'; when you first posted your question.





';...I was faithful to him these past few months and committed to our family...'; - Sweetie, marriage is a lifetime. A few months of fidelity and devotion is a blip on the screen. WOW. The Pope should give you sainthood for that!!





What goes around - comes around. Payback is a *****.Online Affairs? Has anyone had a cheating spouse?
He sounds devious and dangerous. Get a really good divorce attorney to protect you and the children. Get ready and then RUN!
I had a affair with a married man who was 46 years older than me.... DONT DO IT!!!!
A compulsive liar and disgusting human being? And you are completely innocent? There is rarely a relationship that is that one-sided. Are you the perfect wife? In order to have a relationship in a marriage, you will also have to consider your own short-comings. Yes, you must have failed too. I highly recommend that you check out my source for more info on how marriages work.
I am married to a compulsive liar right now...so I know its hard. My husband used to lie to me about EVERYTHING...the littlest most stupid things he would lie about...even when I would catch him red handed he would try to make it about me...and I let him for a really long time...Finally about a year ago everything came to a head and I laid down the law to him...We are working it out but it is hard to rebuild the trust and believe his stories...He still lies every once in awhile and I call him out on it but it is getting much better...





Good Luck and be the best mom that you can be to your kids.