As mentioned in a previous question when I bashed John Edwards for cheating on his wife to a friend of mine, she pointed out that I had no right to criticize him because I cheated on my fiance with my current husband for a year before breaking it off and that I was promised to guy #1. It was actually during that year while I was cheating that I got engaged to the man I dumped for my husband. It had been a 5 yr relationship and he never knew about it. My husband did.
I personally think that it is NOT as big of a deal to cheat on a fiance as it is a spouse but was surprised at how many on here seemed to think that cheating on a fiance was still really bad. I'm still looking for something to spring from here in my argument as to why Edwards was wrong, and I was not so I can still bash a liberal and make a great point. Thoughts? Cheating on a fiance is QUITE different than a spouse. Right? What argument can I use to show I was right or at least that he was ';more'; wrong?Is cheating on a fiance really as bad, still want a good explanation?
Wow.
Perhaps you can't come up with an argument because you don't have a leg to stand on.
Ask yourself this: what is the purpose of an engagement? Do you think the word ';commitment'; enters into the equation? Is cheating on a fiance really as bad, still want a good explanation?
I guess it depends on the circumstances surrounding the cheating. I could maybe see if you started falling for this new guy and then soon after broke it off, if you led your fiance on for a long time after realizing you didn't want to marry him or after cheating on him then I would consider it to still be pretty wrong.
You could argue that you haven't said your wedding vows yet and have not committed to spending your entire life with your fiance though.
it's the deception that is a problem. even if it's only a bf or if it's a friend, the deception is the problem in a relationship. if you are initiating a deception, you are responsible. i personally think it's no less severe for any committed relationship. bf, fiance or hubby. if you have an agreement to monogamy and you break it, you are just as guilty of breaking your word as john edwards.
Cheating is cheating whether you are just dating, engaged or married. It is lying anyway you look at it. How would you feel if it was the other way around? It would be just as hurtful regardless of your situation, married, engaged, dating. If you don't want to be with that person, you shouldn't be. There is no excuse for betraying anyones trust.
Cheating's cheating. Period.
Why does our society think it's okay to have different 'tiers' or 'levels'of morality?
Deception is deception.
Cheating's cheating.
Murder's murder.
Lying's lying.
if your word is not your bond, you have no honor. -RKO-
you both are wrong, why be in a relationship if your just going to fck anyone you want, then he should be able to do the same, so tell your guy that your with that its is cool to go out and find another girl to have sex with , becasue your cool with it
Who cares which one was worse? Its stupid to cheat on anybody period. Thats all there is to it. If you didn't love the man you should have just left him instead of whoring around.
cheating is cheating.
no good comes of moral relativism.
When finger pointing note how many fingers are pointing back at you, But work on it and I am sure you acn justify it some how
You are in the same boat as Edwards, both of you cheated on someone you claimed to love.
Maybe we should ask your fiance to settle the debate.
No, cheating on a fiance is no different than a spouse, because regardless of your marital status you are still being deceptive and manipulative.
I agree with the first responder who stated that we should ask your fiance, or your previous fiance about this.
I have never cheated on anyone, and before I cheated on my fiance I would break of the engagement and relationship altogether.
Cheating is cheating. You are the same as John Edwards - not trying to insult you, but if you think that John Edwards did something wrong, look in the mirror. You did it, too.
The term ';whoring around'; used by a previous poster is a bit too much.
Listen, every relationship has its own rules. It sounds to me as if you need to be in a relationship where your partner knows what you're doing and doesn't mind.
So he either expects you to let him do the same, or if he doesn't care for that he expects you to stay with him after you've had your fun.
I don't know how well this kind of relationship works but give it a try. Be upfront about your desires and see if you can find someone who won't argue with you about it.
To deceive someone, anyone, is not a nice thing to do and if you get caught lying be ready to live with the consequences.
No one likes to be lied to or be in a relationship where the other partner is being secretive about things, or doesn't want to talk things over, or they are plain lying.
It's depressing and is detrimenatl to your self-esteem.
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