How to deal with a spouse that is addicted to sex?

My husband of 3 years has just admitted to me that he was addicted to sex. He has cheated on me several times, has gotten two other people pregnant, and continually text messages girls, and watches porn. He said he would go to counseling and now just tries to watch porn. It is so hard to work through this with him. I am willing to, but is there really hope for a cure or will he continue to cheat? Is there anyone with a success story?How to deal with a spouse that is addicted to sex?
well I am not sure of success rates, however the fact


that you husband admits his addiction and is willing


to get help....that is a great start as


my mom once told me by posting an ad on my frig that


said


THE ONLY TIME A WOMAN CAN


CHANGE A MAN,


IS WHEN HE IS


WEARING DIAPERS!!!


so many try to change and since your man is willing to


TRY this is a great start for the two of you


are you willing to be there for him? It probably won't be


easy


My sister's husb went thru a mid life crisis at 45ish and


got addicted to porn on Internet, going to stripper clubs


and she found out when he wiped out their savings !


That was 12 years ago and they are still together he


decided to confess to her and so she stayed.


However the hardest part for me would be is once you


decide to stay you just cannot throw his past errors in his


face at first argument you have. You have to forgive


and try to forget...my sis told me a few years ago that


still every once in a while she resents what he did for


1 year going thru their savings and their was not


punishment for him she had to be the one to forgive


and forget and she sometimes feels that twinge of anger


and resentment....I personally have noticed they are closer


now and talk more and she is not as uptight as she used to


be.so I think you have to ask yourself


1) can you forgive?


2) can you not bring it up in a fight?


3) are you up for it, not worrying, freaking out


if he is late from work, late from the store etc?


I would think he needs to do counseling on his own for a while and have you when the counselor thinks it is time


for both of you to have session(s)


good luck, I will say a prayer for you if you don't mindHow to deal with a spouse that is addicted to sex?
I don't have a success story sorry, but I feel that he doesn't really want to solve his problem. If he really cared he would go to the sex addict meetings and maybe a doctor of psychologist. I feel you can do better then what he is giving you. If he is addicted to sex why cant it be with you? Also, will you ever be able to trust him again or is that not an issue? Trust is a very important thing in a relationship. I think his success really depends on if he wants to or not. I'm sure there are recovering sexaholics but they need to want the change. Also, he is compromising your safety. What with all the STDs out there. You might want to get checked by the way.
I could lie and say that maybe counsiling will help and He'll get his mind straight... but the truth is there is no success story for you 2... You should divorce him, You cannot be ';addicted'; to sex either, You can like it alot and want to have it like 6 times a day but you can't become physically addicted to it...it's mind over matter and if he really had his mind set to it he could make it work, but he doesn't there for you should take charge :)





Good luck!
wow =[ im really sorry this is happening to you hun, but sometimes you have to think about yourself and your happyness too and if this guy is hurting you like that then you should just end it...but i think also that if you love him enough which i think he loves you a lot a well you should support him try everything you can so that he can be cured and if he cant then you know thats why he has you!! lol well good luck i wish i could tell you about any success stories but i havent ever seen a situation like that but i wish you all the best


hugs
im sorry, but I have never heard of anyone with a success story in this type of situation. You are married, he shouldn't cheat. Porn okay, but cheating is not. I honestly don't believe there is a cure for that. And so what if he is addicted to sex, he should only be having sex with you. Getting other people pregnant, and texting girls... Yea girlie, you need to leave him! Or your probably going to be stressed your entire life if you remain with this man. good luck to you though, and i wish you nothing but the best.





If you fix something that has broken, it will always have cracks... think about it.
My ex-fiance was a porn addict. He left me after 4 1/2 years when he wasn't sure what he wanted in life. He only came back into the picture when he realized I moved on. My first love came back into my life, and that is why my ex is an ex and nothing more. He put me into awful situations with his addiction. With the ex I was blinded by what I thought was love. I'm just glad he did me the favor and left so I could wake up. My hubby and I look at porn together. We are open and share, we do not hide and lie. It took me a long time to recover from what I went through with my ex, but thankfully I got with my first love a few months after the ex. The trust was already built.
WTF?!?! Sex addict, that's a disease now? wow back in the 40's and 50's that was called PERVERT!!!





Wow any personality flaw now is a ';disease'; guess I've got one too...Honesty Addict.





Give him a straight dose of reality, counseling would work yes (but only if he'll commit to change) but bottom line is if he doesn't grow up and get out of the 15 year old penis thinking mind set and act like a freakin adult you're gonna be stuck with a bunch of kids that aren't yours.





There's more than enough Non-sex addict men out there that you can find if you ditch this guy.
Saying that he's addicted to sex is the stupidest excuse ever. Sorry to be so blunt but he's just looking for a way to make his cheating seem like its ok. If he's cheated on you once....or a million times....he'll do it again. I would leave him...but I know that's easier said than done.





Good Luck!
Start giving it to him more....You might not be in the mood but act like you are and just please him....That way he won't go out and cheat....Watch a porno with him and do the same thing that they are doing. Except for the threesome stuff..Start being creative with him and he won't need to stray. But I would leave him.
HOLD UP. how are just gonna let it slid like that. see thats what my mom thinks that my step dads doing behind her back. but No you need to stand up and tell him to get his s#!t and leave. my mom just got all of his clothes and sat them on the front porch. girl u have go to stand up. and and get a blocker on your computer
That's really tough. If he admitted all this to you openly without you finding anything and interrogating him, I think it's a sign that he does genuinely want to get better. You might find information about this and maybe some success stories on other sites?
Well theres 2 things


leave him, he will continue regardless of what you do, However here is the answer you want to hear:





Try new things in the bedroom or maybe see if you can join in on his hobbies and maybe create a better relationship.,
I'm so sorry for the life you are living with him.


I have no idea if he will change.....he has cheated on you.....is a father of possibly 2 women......


I really think there is someone out there for you who would honor you.


I do hope you have no children to consider.


Leave.


Good luck.
Infidelity is grounds for divorce.





Every time you sleep with him, you threaten yourself with STD's and death threatening diseases. Its not fair or right for you to deal with your husband's shameful behavior.





Please decide what's right for your life. Best of luck.
Man, the cheating is not okay. I don't think that I could work through that one. Sex is a powerfull addiction, up there with meth. While anything is possible I doubt he will change in the time frame that you will need him too.
WRONG IS WRONG, REGARDLESS OF HE'S YOUR HUSBAND. THIS BASTARD GOT TWO OTHER KIDS THATS NOT BY YOU, WHATS THE POINT OF CURING A MARRIAGE THAT HE ALREADY ****** UP! TAKE HIM TO COURT-HE COMMITTED ADULTRY. DON'T FEEL BAD, HE MESSED UP NOT YOU!
First, get yourself tested for STDs. Give him one chance to join Sex Addicts Anonymous. It is a 12-step organization modeled after AA. If that doesn't work or he won't make it work, move on.


http://www.sexaa.org/
oh please! ';I'm a sex adict'; is a lame a$s excue for him not being man enough to truely commit himself to you.





why would you even want to stay with him? do you want to catch an STD? do you want to support his bastard kids?
Let him keep up the counceling, but if he cheats again, I would leave. Sometimes I think this ';addicted to sex'; thing is just an excuse. I wonder how he would feel if you suddenly became ';addicted to sex'; too.
What are you doing with this guy???





He's got big issues, psychological!!!





It must be emotionally affecting you, what





motivates you to stay with him???
Google male chasity.





Solves all your issues and will help rebuild the trust in your relationship. If he doesn't want to kick him out, although I would kick him anyway.
Holy crap you're a forgiving person!!!





If I dared even bat an eyelash at another woman, my wife would have my nuts in a jar by noontime.
Once a cheater always a cheater!
No he is a nymphomaniac . There is no cure castration but i don't think he will go for that
No success story here, but why are you putting up with cheating? You can do better. Trust.
no chance..once a cheater...always a cheater.


sorry
this is kinda harsh..haha but funny...try doing it with him 10 times a day or double it or triple until he kneels down at you and tell enough..haha
sorry dear, But take this from a man that has never cheated ever in his life , DUMP his *** , he will never change sorry
Dump the pathetic weasel - ';I'm a Sex Addict';. Right; just can't keep it in his pants more like
once a cheater, always a cheater. no offense...but he sounds like he is on no road to better himself.
give him a sex toy