no one is laughing at u, its his dishonor, not yours. people deal with it different ways, it would depend on if the marriage was a good one up until now, or if it had happened before, and his willingness to accept responsibilty and make ammends. sometimes people just make mistakes, and deserve another chance, sometimes they meant to do it, and aren't sorry. when it happened to me my ex was not sorry, justified it, even left me for the other woman, refused to take blame, so there was no choice but to divorce the man. it could have been saved, had he been remorseful, and had he wanted to go to therapy and see what could be done. it made me feel at first as if the whole world was lauging at me, because i never saw it coming. at first i was devistated, but somehow found the inner strength to do what i had to to get rid of him, and not let him destroy me emotionally. i too felt alone and when i did i began to pray and find out that there was more in the world then this. so i let it go whatever way it was going to go, and he stayed with the woman. but just recently i heard from an old friend back in the neighborhood that the cheating pair did not enjoy a happy life, and that life did not go well for them. when someone betrays u, u have two choices, take them back and seek some therapy, or divorce them. depends on if its worth saving, its not worth saving if the other person isn't interested in saving it.Has anyone in here ever been cheated on by their spouse?
i feel you, iv been cheated on by my spous but i love them too much to let them go and it hurts me. iv tryed once to let them go i delet them from everything myspace MSN there phone number aanything possible but they just keep coming back like a boom arang, anyway u dont need that worthless son of a
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If anyone should feel like a fool it's your husband for doing such a despicable thing. But I have been there and it takes a lot, a lot of time to heal. You were betrayed and your trust along with your heart have been severely broken and that isn't something you can get over just like that. I believe in marriage and when I took my vowes I meant to stick by them for better or worse. You can get through this and still save your marriage, if that's what you want. Even though it happened years ago, I was finally able to forgive, but you never forget. I felt like my heart was being ripped from my chest and I felt sick to my stomach all the time. My children are what saved me. I knew that I still had to be their mother and that I couldn't let this ';thing'; beat me. In order for you to move on, you have to forgive, even if you don't stay together. Forgiveness is very powerfull; it really does lift the burden. Counseling helped also, talking it out with an objective unbiased person really helps. Good luck to you.
Yes, been there and done that. It's very painful. And you do feel like a complete fool. The trust is gone. And the questions just keep coming from your mind. The depression and loneliness seems un bearable. But after, a good cry, you get pissed. Then you make a decision. Either live with it or move on. I chose to move on. And it was the best decision I made. However, after being burned like that. You will always have a trust issue. So it will take a very special man, to show you what real love and commitment means. Good luck girl. I feel your pain.
I found out about my husband's affair about 6 months ago. Today, I still have a tough time dealing with it sometimes. We are going for individual and marriage counselling and I've always bought numerous books on infidelity, but sometimes its so hard, and yes like you, I feel like everyone knows and everyone is laughing at me for being the stupidest woman on earth.
I do have my strong days though. That's that time when I know that what he did does NOT define me. That he is weak and stupid and has poor life coping skills. I have my Plan B - my back up plan if this marriage doesn't work out. I am going to try make it work but I also have to have a back up plan because my husband has proven that he is not entirely trustworthy. Have your own savings plan, therapy for urself and also indulge in a few treats once in awhile. Treat urself good.
Do you still want ur marriage? Does he? If yes, then work on it. I guess it's possible. I've heard of some couples who erally got stronger after such a crisis. But if you are getting out of it, please also still get therapy for urself. U need it.
Remember, crisis can make or break you. I hope it makes you stronger. Take care. Email me if you want to vent more. *hugs*
My first husband cheated on me. I got a divorce. I was not going to live like that. This is not something you did, this is something that he did. No one is laughing at you. It made me feel like **** but I moved on.
Sorry, you've to go through this. Don't be depressed, take some time for yourself and think through things. And then decide how you want to teach him a lesson. Again don't be depressed. He is going to really feel bad about what he has done.
Yep. Loved it. Asked her to whisper the details of it to my while we took care of each other. It makes for incredible sex.
nope...I'm still single...
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