How to deal with a spouse that cheats/lied 5times about the other women?

my husband had cheated 3times before marriage and twice after. he didnt have any physical affair with any of the other women ( i know for sure)but secretly send email or sms....yeah he's a creep. even on the streets he would oogle other women, literally.like he cant control himself...


guess you may think that i am super stupid, or a weakling but each time i wanted to leave him, he would cry, kneel and beg me not to, also the fact that he's suicidal.i feel really trapped,


need advice, he kept saying is nothing and its harmless.How to deal with a spouse that cheats/lied 5times about the other women?
If he is stupid enough to kill himself let him.But why I must ask is why did you marry him in the first place. Sounds like he cheated 4 more times than he should have.How to deal with a spouse that cheats/lied 5times about the other women?
did he win the academy award? Time to kick him to the curb! good luck
don't live him. what you need to do is to make him feel pain as you are.go out and make a new boyfriend.or find your old boyfriend. than show to him in perposely. that's the time you can laugh at him. and make him cry for real this time.
Let him die or deal with it
sounds like a scumbag. leave him and let him cry. He obviously doesnt care about you if he keeps doing it.
i would ask him to go to counseling. if he wont, then it's over. if he's souicidal over it, i would think he would try. wether it's emotional or physical, an affair is an affair in my book. if he gives it a good hard try and tries to control his 'addictions' through professional help i would give him a chance. if he's not willing then it seems he doesnt really WANT to change and second chances will be futile. i wish the two of you the best of luck as marriage is not easy. god bless
Your version of cheating is emailing someone? Guys like to think they are still hot even that ship has sailed. My bald, 50ish hubby(granted he maybe looks 40) loves to check out hot young women(think 21) We have a running joke-I say ';honey, put your tongue back in your mouth, she's about to tell the studmuffin she's talking to on the phone that OMG some really OLD geezer is gawking at me, ITS SOOOO disgusting...so let him fantasize-if he's true to you in the real world sense let him have some harmless fun...
Lose the loser.
At this point, there is nothing to deal with unless you want to stay with a man who has no feelings for you. If he did, he wouldn't be doing anything like he is. I would say a separation, counselling,,,,, which rarely work, then divorce. You need a lot better in your life than what you are getting.
Kick his a** to the curb. What a weiner. He's acting like a child. If he kills himself, that's his issue,, his choice, not yours.
I've known many men who do that to trap their woman to stay with them while they eat their cake , and their pie too!





You're way to deep in it now. You still can leave, and I'm sure it wouldn't be difficult to find replacement since he's been doing it for years.
either leave or put up with it. his 'suicide' has nothing to do with you.
Leave him, u know and the rest of us know that its good. Hes not gonbna commit suicide, hes too weak to do it if he keeps going to other women for support, u are not his main support system and balance. Find balalnce in your won life by letting him go once and for all, hes definatley not for u and hes not good for u. Let him go and let live, find someone who appreciated u and won't do tjhe things he does. Let him go....
you and your hubby need counseling to see if this marriage is worth saving. most times if they cheat they will continue, especially if he feels there is nothing wrong with it.
Well, your husband is responsible for his own behavior, not you! If he's telling you he's suicidal that's a ploy to keep you around. He's getting exactly what he wants. He gets to keep having emotional affairs with other women (which are just as wrong and devastating as physical affairs) and you can't leave or he might kill himself.





If he displays suicidal behavior, call the police, a hospital, or 9-1-1. If he's being serious, you will save his life. If he's just being manipulative, a night or two in the psych ward will end his suicidal threats.





He CAN control himself, but you don't require him to. The fact that you're still with him after five affairs tells him that he can have all the affairs he wants and all he has to do is cry and tell you he's suicidal and everything will be all right.





So, how do you deal with it? Well, you either decide that you're worth it and you leave him until he can prove to you that he's willing and ready to be faithful; or you continue to live with a man who gives himself to other women.





You can't change his behavior, only your own. If you love and honor yourself enough, you will tell him, very clearly, that his behavior is unacceptable and that until he can prove to you that he's changed you're leaving. When he cries and threatens suicide, you simply pick up the phone, call 9-1-1, and say, ';My husband is threatening to kill himself.'; When the police and paramedics arrive and he has to explain himself, his tune will change very quickly. He will probably lash out at you in anger. However, you will have sent him a very clear message that his kind of emotional blackmail does not work, and he will probably not try it again.





In the meantime, find a good support group for yourself and learn to love and honor yourself. When you're strong enough to not stand for his behavior anymore, he will have a lot more love and respect for you. He will do everything in his power to make it work and to keep you.


Or he will go find someone else that will put up with his philandering. If he does that, count yourself lucky that you're no longer on the receiving end of his pain and heartache.





Good luck and I hope this helps.
He got away with it the first time..now he thinks he can do it when he wants.





You might love him and want to be with him...understandable.....





BUT, you need to leave him..and make him THINK you are serious.......make him BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEGGGGGGGGGG you back.





You deserve better....but its your life.


If you want to be with someone you can't trust the rest of your life and always have to question....then do it.


You need someone that respects you though. And that dog doesn't.
He is manipulating you, but you know that. He is carving a huge hole in your dignity, but you know that. He doesn't respect you, but you know that too!!!!! You are setting yourself up for a massive fall. You are teaching him how to treat you! stop being played!!
You need to be sure about what you are willing to accept. If any sort of adultery is unacceptable to you it is time to start afresh without him. Before you make any permanent decisions speak honestly with him. Ask him to respect your marriage and be faithful. Get counselling. All the best.
Well men are men you can live with %26amp; you can't live without them but you can get even. Think about it.
His suicidal thoughts are not yours to take on. You can't make someone take their own life so never feel guilty about it.





It's time to walk away. Don't be used for one more second. He has issues and should get help.
The whining, crying, and suicide threats sound like a way to control you. I'm not saying that he isn't imbalanced.. he obviously is.. but you are not responsible for his bad behavior and you are not responsible for his maturity and mental health. You are not trapped. You are an adult and have a choice to live with this behavior or not.


He has a choice to change, seek help (for behavior, depression, and suicidal thoughts) , or continue to manipulate you. It's very simple.. Is this how YOU choose to live?
gurl listen to ur heart


if hes cheated on u so many times


and u wanna leave him


then leave him


and if hes suicidal


get him help be4 u leave for good


u dont want him to kill himself


just listen to ur heart
i AGREE with the others Throw him out of the Trailer Immediately
he is a cheater!
If it bothers you and he knows it, it's not ';harmless'; and he's disrespecting you and your relationship for continuing to do it.





Give him one more chance. Tell him he stops or you leave. If he doesn't stop, then you leave.





Simple.
Leave him! Don't base your life on him! Obviously he doesn't respect you like you respect him. Save yourself the heartache and be done with him. If he's so suicidal he shouldn't be depending on you for support.
You are not trapped, it is your choice to stay or leave. It is your choice to keep getting hurt in this manner, he is an adult and responsible for his action, if he commits suicide, it is his choice, and not your fault, he is playing you. Unless you want an open marriage, which is what he is living in, and has eveything a loving wife and all the women he wants, think about leaving . It is your life and your choice.
If he cheated and lied about the first five.


He will cheat and lie about the next five.
He has always thought about himself, it is time that you think about yourself. Ultimately, YOU are what matters here. You need to leave. Most likely the suicide threats are just that.....threats. He probably wont act on it, but you cannot hold yourself responsible for his mental problems. Leave him, and if he calls and is saying he is suicidal, call the cops and they will get him some help - he wont get in trouble. That will also teach him not the threaten that if he doesnt mean it. You need to put your foot down and not let him control you any more.
make him be ho nest anyway





its not a crime to lust secretly after somebody





if she is imaginary, that is even better I think
Tell him to stop his nonsense or you better decide to leave him (provided you have no children, other commitments, etc.)