A sad question?

So heres the deal. Most of my friends I have been friends with for about 12 years or so and really close. Well my best friend in the whole world about 3 years ago was dating another friend of ours. It was wrong at the time because they were both cheating on thier spouses. They had sex a bunch of times and then ended it. Well I just found out last week that this friend of ours that my best friend had sex with had discovered right after they ended thier relationship that they were HIV positive, and never told my best friend this. I want and need to tell her to get tested but she has a very big mouth at times and I dont want her telling everyone that we know that our mutual friend has HIV if it turns out that she is negative. So how do I go about telling her. I am very very scared for her.A sad question?
Perhaps you could simply suggest to your friend to get tested, if she has sex with a lot of different people? You don't have to tell her about your other friend with the HIV. Just suggest it, and tell her that you care about her health.A sad question?
Even if she turns out negative she could still have it, it may not show up for 7 years. I would not keep quiet about your friend having HIV, if your friend wants to keep it a secret then let him, but you also have an obligation to your other friend. You need to just come out and tell her so she can get tested and hopefully she did not take it back to her spouse. Look at the consequences it could cause if they have children.
Never mind you are scared of her. This is very serious. You should tell her. The sooner the better. If you have to email her and then avoid her, but she needs to know. Good luck, you are going to need it.
Get tested together. Tell her you want to go get tested and would like her support and ask if she would do it with you. If that does not work than you should tell her outright it needs to be said.
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This is tough but you have a responsibility with the knowledge you have. If you don't tell her nobody else will and she won't get the treatment she may possibly need. If your friend does test HIV positive she needs to know as soon as possible so she can start taking care of herself.
If you feel you need to be really discrete about this whole thing, I'm pretty sure that when you donate blood they test you and phone you if the result is positive DOUBLE CHECK THIS (i don't know for sure) you could just invite her to donate blood one day with you.


Once you've somehow gotten her tested, I think it's important to talk with her about her reckless behavior (and while you're at it, her insensitivity to such private information) Perhaps when your friend is ready to let people know about his condition, the three of you can sit down together and talk this through abit.


Begining with why they even had the affair, to why it is so difficult to be honest with her. Maybe you should do this with a counselor (Not a 5 year process or anything, just a visit or two)





Whatever you do, do something soon. If your anything like me you;ll debate about this forever, and that's no good.


All the best...
Go to the friend who already knows they are positive and tell them to have the doctor contact the other friend. Give them a chance to handle it through a professional 3rd party that leaves you out of it. If they refuse then write a letter to your friend who does not know and inform them. They MUST be told before it is too late or they infect someone else. Are you married? Does your spouse or sex partner(s) know these people also? Have you thought about getting tested? No one thinks it will happen to them and everyone wants to trust their partner, but better safe than sorry.
just get some bold blass and tell your friend,... by the way how long was it after they ended their relationship did they find they had HIV??,....i would like to know to answer this question properly. use my question to reply.
Tell her that you want to take the test but you're scared to do it alone, you know.. tell her that you'll feel more comfortable if she takes the test with you. then everything is gonna look casual.


Good luck, and God bless you.
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perhaps invent some sort of tale about people finding out years later about a STD with no/little symptoms, and make out you are worried about it. then suggest the two of you both go and get tested, just to reasure your own mind - and that she should go, and be tested, as ';moral'; support for you.
I think you should tell the friend that you think could have this exactly what you have found out and tell her to get tested. is my oppinion.





and be their for her.





Tell only her and no one else.
just tell her by anonymous email. say it was someone she slept with and don't reveal the name, but make it sound real.
';Tell her';, you don't want to end up seeing her die later, because of this do you?
I would anonymously tell her to test. But truthfully, if she had unprotective sex, she put herself at risk and should be aware of what to do.
You can always send you friend a card or letter anonomously stating that she has come in contact with someone that is HIV positive and she shoud be tested.