Is it really a big deal when someone cheats on a significant other? Should cheating just be accepted?

I have never been in a real relationship but from what I see, cheating on spouses is pretty common. From what I can tell, pretty much everyone cheats at some point. Since I've never really been in a relationship, I don't know how I would feel if a boyfriend/husband cheated on me. But sometimes I wonder, is it really that big of a deal if your partner just wanted to be with someone else for a little bit and had sex with someone else. That doesn't mean they don't love you or care about you anymore. I know people who say they would never stand for someone to cheat on them but when they are cheated on, they remain in the relationship. Is it a bad idea then to agree from the get go that you don't care if one of you has sex with someone else every once in a while (as long as you're protected). Thoughts anyone?Is it really a big deal when someone cheats on a significant other? Should cheating just be accepted?
From what I have read on about the human mind, cheating is not acceptable. who ever is the one who is getting cheated on and finds out always has that question of ';am I not good enough'; and it lowers self-esteem. Depending on how long the relationship is the bigger the affect and consequence. If you don't love or care about the person anymore then for the other person's sake you just shouldn't be in the relationship anymore. Cheating can become a really big deal because cheating means that the person your with doesn't know. There is a thing called ';open relationships'; or for married people ';swingers'; the difference is that the other person knows. In my personal mind I believe that it is not right and that you can't really be fully committed or in love with someone if you want to sleep with someone else. Sure there are those desires, or ideas but you don't usually act on them. So to answer your question simply, No, it shouldn't be accepted.Is it really a big deal when someone cheats on a significant other? Should cheating just be accepted?
It depends on the situation. If the person that cheats is a good person and a good spouse and has ONE slip/mistake, then the cheating shouldn't be accepted but forgiveness is an option; and a good option.





If the person that cheats is a bad person and bad spouse who never treated the person right, then forgiveness isn't an option.





And if both people are having sex with other people, there's no relationship only casual dating with sex.





I think you'll get a better feel of it when you're in a serious relationship.
There are plenty of relationships that don't involve cheating. Not only will cheating open both of you up to catching and giving each other STDs (even with protection) but it may lead to unplanned pregnancies for you or him getting some other girl pregnant (again, even with protection this can still happen). Also, I think the point of the relationship is to be monogamous. If you don't want to be that way, just don't get in a relationship.
';protected'; Aha that prevents pregnancy but what about dieseases?


And no, relationships should be between 2 people and they should be as happy with each other than to 'cheat'





Think about it, if you found out your boyfriend or husband was having sex with another women because you didn't satisfy him and he wanted 'change'
There are many that agree with you. For example, some are in what are called open relationships, and others are involved in what is called polyamory. If you can find truly like-minded people to ';relate'; to, good for you. However, for the most part in most cultures, a relationship implies an exclusivity that does not permit such things.
yeah honestly, unless you're in an ''open-relationship (which I also think is complete BS) ... cheating in my eyes is soo un-acceptable. When you really like or love somebody who cheats on you, it hurts like HELL.
omg. are you serious? CHEATING IS EVIL.. ok it means you broke that bond of trust. that is TERRIBLE, and should NOT be accepted. and not every one does cheat. some (and i mean SOME.. like not a lot but some) dont cheat. God bless the people that dont cheat.
It's a betrayal of trust. If you're in a relationship, you commit to it. If one was okay with that then they'd have an open relationship.





And no, I don't think that ';everyone cheats at some point';.
is cheating wrong!?!? are you serious?!?!?!?!





CHEATING=WRONG





simple nuff?
it does happen alot, im only 13 %26amp; my dad cheated and it hurt like hell, %26amp; i wasnt even his wife my mom was hurt so bad. i cant stand my dad anymore even tho my parents are working it out i cant believe he was such a jerk to do that. you never realize how bad it truley does hurt until someone does cheat. %26amp; as you said bout you kno with someone else is my dad did %26amp; he said to my mom ';i love you but im not in love with you'; i dont kno why but when someone does ';you kno'; with someone else....they fall out of love with the other person..my mom still crys %26amp; she is still hurt, if you want to avoid embarrassment (if you work it out) %26amp; seeing you loved one hurt beyond belief dont cheat it'll tear your family and friends apart...ive seen it happen.
i am 14 and my dad cheated on my mom for 3 years... the problem with cheating is that when u get married or even get into a relationship u r promising to b commited to only them. and if ur married and have children it causes many more probs. (diff convo but) if u cheat on some1 it is basically telling them that they arent good enough and u need some1 better which is wat my dad did. he went with another women AND her children for 3 years(while he was still living with us. he just said he was working a lot.) and he made another family... he thought he was gona leave my mom for her and love her. well she turned out to b a drunk and tried to kill a him and 2 years l8tr (aftr my parents are divorced btw) she still drives by our house. theres a major problem with cheating and i could give many more reasons than that.
yes. it's a huge deal. be with someone else and sleep around even if they still loved me? that's the stupidest thing i've heard. that's jerry springer for you.





it hurts so bad when someone cheat on you. there's absolutely no excuse for it. if my girlfriend cheated on me, i'd drop her. yes, i'll miss her and probably still have some feelings for her still. but the fact that she cheated is unforgivable to me.





even before i got into relationships, i watched at how it tore at my mom when my biological dad cheated time and time again. she couldn't leave because he was the one who made the money in the family. that's why people stay -- money, the kids, too complicated. it's a learned helplessness thing. she finally did, but only because her family members forced her to.
well it's not that big a deal if you don't mind not having any trust or respect in the relationship. most relationships go through rough patches, but that doesn't make it okay to cheat on your partner. no one that Truly loved you would expect you to put up with them sleeping with someone else, regardless if it was just for the sex. the only thing you can do to prevent a loved one from cheating is to show them that you love them, people usually cheat when things get dull or they feel unloved, but keep in mind that you shouldn't let them treat you like a door mat either you because you care for them
my boyfriend, my first love too cheated on me, i didnt spoke to him for weeks, i didnt even yell at him or something, i cried for nights, till i finally talked to him and after alot of talking i fogive him, but after that i was able to trust him anymore we were always fighting then i left him cuz i didnt trust him,so i guess the answer to your question is ya it really matters with some people, if someone loves me he should be not interested in any 1 else , like i am with him...
I'll answer this in Rap:








'If you think your man is becoming a bore,


don't turn into a little whore,


It really aint right, it aint okay,


so listen to me this is what I say,


it hurts another when you cheat on him


you dont know the pain that it could bring,


it makes him feel inadequate, an underachiever,


how would you feel, if he ****** someone elses beaver?


if you you dont like him, chuck him and be done,


shagging around aint always fun,


someone gets hurt the other feels bad,


is that really worth the fun you had,


like swans, humans are made for one other,


one special person, one soulmate, one lover,


threesomes are fun, but only in porn,


think how many babies could be born,


if we all went out and ****** around,


in every street of every town,


we all know what fun that could be,


till you have ten children and an STD.'





The end.