Is it okay that my wife does not want to take me to parties with her?

My wife who loves me and tells me she would never hurt me (cheat on) or leave me does not invite me to go to parties with her. She has had friends at work ask her to a party and she will call me and ask if it is alright with me if she goes. I then ask her what kind of party is it and she tells me it is a normal party with lots of people going. I ask her how come you dont ask me to go. She tells me you were not invited and you wont know anybody there and I dont want to have to entertain you all evening. This scenario has happened twice in the last month. I tell her it bothers me that she does not invite me and she just laughs it off. Both times she chose not to go cause I kind of made it a big deal that I would like to go with her.





Is this behavior normal?


Isn鈥檛 the spouse always assumed to be going/invited?


Is it okay that my wife does not want to take me to parties with her?
there is a definite problem.





either she is embarrassed by you -


or


she is doing things she does not want you to see.





not wanting to 'entertain you' is not a valid reason at all... I cant even imagine that being true. I mean, youre WITH her, right? how can you even view the person that you are with like that?Is it okay that my wife does not want to take me to parties with her?
they say...2 is company and 3 is a crowd.





Sounds like she wants to screw around to me....
I don't like to be hurtful, but maybe she's afraid you would embarrass her.
I think something is wrong ,she should explain why,en u should one day where is the party en they show up en see whats she is doing,she might be doing something fishy
I know you don't want to make a big deal but she should go to parties without you. If you think about it what are parties really for. (drink, smoke, dance) What is she doing at a party without you. I think that you should make a stand and tell her that is just not right what she is doing. How would she feel if you did the same to her? Don't' take this from her you're the man, right? As a married woman I would never consider going to places like this without my hubby. Now a days stupid songs like that one from Rihana promote infidelity. Be strong and stand up to her.
There is someone there she dose not want you to meet parties that do not include spouse unless they are all girl things should not be attended
Well honestly i would not want to go to a party that my spouse wasn't welcome at. In my opinion if i was told that i would feel like she didn't want to bother by having me there for one reason or another. At times it's good to get away for a change. Maybe having drinks with coworkers or such but parties are a different story. Maybe she just needs her space. I would dig a bit deeper.
well for one, maybe she didnt really want to go to the party and was looking for a excuse not to go. two , maybe obiously she didnt go to the party. and three, the kids need somebody to watch them. and four maybe she loves you, and you should stop asking silly questions on yahoo?? maybe she is fed up with herself and her life and just finds it almost impossible to care about anything anymore.......
I will not jump into any assumptions as to what is going on on those parties.





But.. you are her husband and you DO NOT NEED ANY INVITATION to attend ANY party your wife attends.


Anyone telling you otherwise is nuts!
no she should always bring you of course, i would find out the address and just show up, you are her husband and should be respected.


she sounds heartless or she's up to no good..how could you ever be formally 'invited'' you don't work with her that is one lame excuse.
u got to tell her how u fill about it
Well I may be guilty of doing this same thing. It's not parties though but out to a club. And here is my story. You can compare it to hers. My husband and I used to go to clubs alot when we were dating and yes that was back when we were 21 to about 25 maybe. Now we are 28 and he thinks there is no reason to go to clubs. A group of my friends go occasionally and I like to hang out and dance with them. I am not looking for guys or hoping to get hit on or anything like that. I just like to hang out with friends and drink a little and dance. He doesn't enjoy it at all. The last time he went he sat at the table and sulked all night. Also, he doesn't like to stay out late... EVER! So if I'm planning on doing something with friends I usually expect him to not want to come along. I always ask him to but he usually thinks I'm being immature for wanting to stay out late and sleep the next day away. That's his view. I have mine.





In your case, she should ask you to come along. And yes if her co-workers know she's married they would assume you were coming unless she has made you out to be a couch potato or unsociable or something.





So, I don't know if you have given her the idea before that you wouldn't have fun at such a thing, like my husband has, but that could be the case. If it's innocent she probably just has more fun without you there and it may not be because she's cheating but just because she can be herself and act stupid or some way she wouldn't act with you there. To be a good wife she should introduce you to these people so that you might become friends with some of them and then she wouldn't have to worry about entertaining you all night. You could entertain yourself.





I do think it sounds a little fishy also but I thought I would offer a different view on the issue.
There is a reason she doesn't want you to go and it's not because you weren't invited. How do you even know there is really a party if she never lets you go with her? And instead of just letting you go she decides not to go all together. She's hiding something but don't expect her to be upfront and honest with you about it. She is either having an affair or thinking about having one.
Does not sound good to me. Yes, when you are married and you get invited to a party it is normal that you as a spouse goes. It is vary much assumed that both of you are invited.


Have you ever met her co-workers? Do they know she is married? If so, than yes I would only assume you are invited.


Not to jump the fence, but I think there may be some cheating going on. Hope not, but just something I suspect.


Good luck and hope everything goes good.
Either she is ashamed of you or is telling people she is single. Normally when people are in a relationship they love to show off their mate. What I have known to happen is the person that is not invited usually shows up at the party unexpected to see what really is going on. Don't make such a big deal out of it. When ever it comes up again let her go to her party. You leave the house too and come home after she does. Start doing that often. I bet she will start inviting you everywhere she goes because she will figure that you are ';enjoying'; yourself elsewhere with out her. What ever you do, never tell her where you are going. Never tell her what you are doing. If you have a cell don't answer it. Watch how things change. If it don't then you will have gotten you a life also. The best thing to tell her is to remember all the space she takes is the same amount of space she gives you. Make it work for you.
yes think positively trust her take her in confidence and ask the reason again and if the reasons mentioned by u r right then she is right
re: I tell her it bothers me that she does not invite me and she just laughs it off.





......That sounds unfriendly - for a spouse!


It seems that you both do not communicate very well so google relationship tips and fix it.
yes it should be, and i dont blame u either, my wife would not be going to partys with out me either