How would you tell your spouse that you are pregnant if you knew they didn't want anymore children??

okay, last year after a few years of trying to concieve, me and my husband finally had a beautiful baby girl. she just turned 1 2 weeks ago.





right before I found out i was pregnant, he cheated. we went thru a strained period but decided to stay together and work things out. a few months back I told him I wanted to have another baby and he said he didn't want to. he said he didn't want anymore kids because when we were trying to concieve it really took a toll on our relationship. and I had 2 miscarriages before my daughter that was really hard for me to deal with and i will admit I took it out on him at times. all the stress of trying to concieve a child and the miscarriages is what he sid led to him cheating. He just needed to feel loved and needed at the time, and honestly i wasn't showing him any of that.





so he says he doesn't want anymore children period. he's happy with it just being us and our daughter.





cont. in a momentHow would you tell your spouse that you are pregnant if you knew they didn't want anymore children??
just tell him. he's either gonna accept the situation or not. but the longer you take to put him ';in the loop'; the more guilty it makes you look. Just sit him down and tell him. If doesn't accept the situation then you know what you need to do....adios amigo.





we got your back boo. (the family). so just tell him so that added stress wont be looming around over you. I need me a godson and Bibi needs him a brother of some kind (god brother, step brother....shoo any kind of brother) and since i'm not having anymore kids..... go ahead and give him what he need. lolHow would you tell your spouse that you are pregnant if you knew they didn't want anymore children??
You have no reason to fear telling him if you truly didn't get pregnant on purpose. Just tell him, and the sooner the better.
Don't tell him, soon or later he will know.
Just say....Do you remember how we talked about not having any more kids? Surprise!
sounds like you already got your answer, give a card saying congratulations your having a new baby
Hopefully he doesnt feel resentment towards you. You both should have taken the necessary precautions if he knew that you all didnt want anymore children. Does he have other children ? Are you all having marriage problems? I'm not sure how long his affair lasted? Is it with someone he has known for a long time or just an acquaintance? Sometimes wives get pregnant as an attempt to keep a relationship which having another baby when it was not planned or wanted drives a wedge between couples. You all may need to get counseling
He's your husband. Because he loves and cares for you, he shouldn't be angry with your conceiving a child. He should stand by you no matter what. And remember, it's not as if you got pregnant all on your own - it takes two to make a baby. Kindly remind him of this fact if he's upset.
well i would just tell him and if he gets mad it take 2 to make a kid
Well, I guess you just have to prepare yourself for whatever reaction that he's going to give and tell him. You're keeping your child, so there's nothing to do but tell him. What was he doing to keep from having another child. It wasn't just your responsibility. If he felt that way, he should've been doing something to keep from you having another child. Good luck to you.
I am glad to hear you are keeping your baby. And it's great that your daughter will have a sibling. Tuck your little girl into bed, fix your husband a nice drink and then sit down and talk. Tell him you didn't intend it, but you are pregnant. You have nothing to apologize for. It took TWO to make that baby. He could have used a condom or had a vasectomy if he truly wanted no more kids. Two of you created this life, and two of you need to care for it. If he isn't happy after his initial shock, tell him he has to support the child, so he needs to get happy or or his tongue for the nerxt 8 months. And in the meantime, try very hard not to let your emotions take a toll on your relatioship. Be happy yourself. IF he's a good guy, he'll come around.
umm just tell him your pregnant and he'll have to deal with it.
Just be honest with him. Although he may have said that he didn't want more kids, it may have just been due to the stress conceiving had on your relationship. He just may be super happy about it. I can't understand it if he's not. Sounds like he's a good father now, and I think he will accept it and get used to it. Its a happy time, and share your joy with him as well so he knows its something you want also. Congratulations. It must be a nice surprise considering everything you went through to have the first one. Tell him its a gift froma bove because you weren't even trying. Also there are tons of benefits your daughter will have by having a lifelong friend and companion.
first off.... there is no excuse for cheating... so what he was telling you is bull.... and think about this.... were you having sex by yourself?.... let him know that ... sometimes... when people have sex.... they get pregnant.... and that's normal... the way to tell him.... just come out and say it.... beating around the bush is kinda irritating.... so good luck and congrats!
OK. You will have the baby. It's your body and your life. You need to tell him this. He is your husband. He needs to accept this child. End of story. DO NOT FEEL SORRY FOR HIS DEAD A$$%26gt; It's his responsibility too. If he doesn't like it, too bad , let him leave, then he isn't a man.
to me it sounds like he is just scared that if you's start trying for another baby it will take along time or you may misscarry again and he doesnt want to go through all that again... im sure he will b happy with this surprise and as you hav decided to work through everything he has done (cheating) in the past this baby might just b the blessing you's need to b able to build your relationship stronger as this time it seems like everything is going to b ok with you an bubs
First of all, there is no reason that validates cheating!





Obviously, you have to tell him at some point and the sooner the better. Since this pregnancy ';just happened'; without all the stressors that were present in your first pregnancy, maybe it'll be easier for him to be excited! Truth is that very few children in this world were ';planned';. Children come into this world for a reason, they are each a blessing. I'm sure in time he will be just as happy to welcome this child into the world as he was the first! Good luck and Congratulations!!
First things first...........if you are pregnant then your husband, the father of your babies, is entitled to know IMMEDIATELY.


Secondly, don't allow your husband to use the issue of conception and your distress following your miscarriages as a justification for his adultery. Of course he needed to feel loved and needed at that time. And so did you.


Right now, you need to feel loved and needed. And it's your husband's role to meet those needs. That's what he signed up for when he signed the marriage register. You have both been blessed with the gift of a second child, without the stress and heartbreaks of previous pregnancies. Tell your husband this good news, allow him time to get his head around it, and then start to plan for a happy future as a family of four.
I'd say, ';well honey, you should have wore protection.. because guess what...';