How to deal with a cheating spouse?

I was recently informed that my husband was cheating on me so I decided to do some dectective work and found him with another girl at a local bar and he would not introduce me but claims they are just friends. When i walked in he was givng her a kiss on the cheek and sitting very closely at the bar. I could tell he was very guilty and know I know he was caught. What should I do with him, I really love him and we will be married 5 years in September. Please HelpHow to deal with a cheating spouse?
jus ask him again i know you are being truthful in the marrage why cant he. i think you should get somebody to do dectetive work to make sure before jumping conclusion. you dont want your marriage to ruin. but he probably is since you saw him and he looked guilty. how would he feel if he see with other guys all up on them in his face he would be mad too but ur not doing that. he need to your side of the story not just his that how o get through my situation i pretend i im the other person shoes and see how they feel about the situation as i do. but make sure you have proof first. i hope everything works outHow to deal with a cheating spouse?
He is a cheating bastard - get a lawyer and take 1/2!
i saw my husband KISS another woman but t h ere w]]as no one else at th e bar [end of night ] but now i do what i like and when he say anthing to me ;;;;;;;;; i hit back ===========big time
If you want to make the marriage work then you should seek counseling. If you don't want to make the marriage work then you should tell him he needs to leave or you need to leave him and file for divorce. My husband cheated on me nearly 4 yrs ago and we have been trying to work on our marriage ever since, its been rough, but it can be done. The trust issue is the hardest thing. I'm not too sure I'll ever be able to fully trust him again, but we are working on all our marital issues. The marriage can be saved if you both want to work on it. If both parties aren't willing to work on it then it may be time to just go your separate ways. Good luck to you!! I hope all works out.
There is not much you can do if he does not want to be married.


Sit down and have a heart to heart with him.


No crying or shouting. If he wants to work it out


Counseling, counseling, counseling


If he no longer wants to be married, gut it up and move on


Take some free time for yourself and realize it was not your fault. It takes time
Yes, you two need marriage counseling.
if that was me..i would leave him. you've only been married 5 years..dont be taken for a fool...if he gets away with it now - you'll have a lifetime or worrying %26amp; wondering - everytime he goes out...and thats no way to live your life - you deserve better.
dunno , he could be mates with this girl, the only way your going to find out is to ask the girl first and your husband and if thier stories dont match or for whatever reason then you gotta do what a girl do to a man when they dump them ........ good luck girl.
Marriage counseling. You have a long way to go to being able to trust him and he has to be willing to do whatever it takes to get that trust back. After all, he derailed the relationship, the major part of getting it back on track should be up to him. If he isn't willing to work on it you are better off leaving now before you waste more time on a marriage that will never last.
I would leave him. That's total disregard and disrespect for you.
Well, up to you, and let me say, I am so very sorry that you are going through this crap. Look, you have to make sure that you are honest with yourself, and when you get a chance, tell your husband that his days of going out alone are done with. You plan to accompany him every time he is on an outing, and you must begin marriage counselling. If he does not comply, do yourself a big favour, contact an attorney and file for divorce.
why was he in a bar without you? does this happen often?





sounds like he thinks he's still single. if you don't have kids, I'd give him the ';opportunity'; to party all he wants - as long as he wasn't living in your house.
divorce. or counseling.
wish i could of been a fly on the wall,trust has gone you may love him all your life,but trust is the foundation/rock of all relationships,once its unstable your on a slippery sloap,you cannot build on something that isnt concrete,it will keep on collapsing.no amount of counselling can repair trust,yes they can make you see where it went wrong but trust cant be repaired,you can forgive him and carry on happily for a while but without the trust your on slippery sloap,and you never be able to trust him again,it will pop up at every argument.sorry it will probably end in divorce,he cheated no trust.
sneak bromide in his coffee so he cant perform sexually at all, then divorce or marriage guidance.
That's just awful. What a rat. How dare he. All you can do is sit him down and tell him how upset you are and ask him to explain why he felt the need to do this. I don't think i could trust him again though if i was you. Either that or take the opposite reaction and go out and have an affair too. This probably isn't a good idea though. He sounds like a pathetic excuse for a man if he's so low to do this to you. Good luck with whatever happens though.
sometimes people make mistakes. you need to talk it through. will be hard to forgive and rebuild the trust, but its your decision.
like every contract in the world marraige has a get out clause. and all u need is a good lawyer to get what u need out of it. but u need to think was u happy before and if not this is the reason why he h cheated and therefore why should u be with someone if neither f u are happy? but if u really believe u can work it out (which in my opinion is no coz i think it has gone beyond repair already) then by all means go for councilling or therapy. but beleive me ive taken back someone who cheated on me before and all i could think about was him and the other girl and he cheated on me again so if u want to take the risk then go for but wouldnt recommend it.


good luck x
You should have introduced yourself, seeing as how your husband apparently had forgotten his manners. If she is just a ';friend'; then why weren't you even aware of the friendship?





As they say, once a cheater, always a cheater.





If I were you, I would tighten the leash, always have protected sex with your husband and try seeking couples counseling with this problem if you want to keep your marriage.





I would also make him go for a battery of STD testing, including HIV %26amp; Hepatitis A, B, C. You should have yourself tested as well. You can never undoubtedly know whether he's had sex with other women, you may as well make sure that the both of you are healthy and disease free.





This story is a prime example of why women turn into ';Psycho Bitches'; hopefully a lot of men read what you've been through and really think about what they do to their partners. It also works vice versa, ladies!
CHEAT ON HIM BACK SEE HOW HE FEELS ABOUT IT...AND EVEN THOUGH ITS GOIN TO BE 5 YEARS ASK URSELF HOW LONG HAS HE BEEN DOIN THIS AND IS IT WITH THE SAME PERSON...AND I THINK THAT SINCE HE DID IT THEN HE WILL DO IT AGAIN EVEN THOUGH HE SAID THEY FRIENDS NO DO FALL FOR THAT..ITS GOIN TO HURT ALOT BUT JUST TRY TO MOVE ON IF HE MOVED ON U CAN TO...AND ASK HIM Y HE DID IT LIKE TALK TO HIM..





%26lt;GOOD LUCK%26gt;
kick him to the curb! he doesn't deserve you!
I think you caught him red handed and that you should ask him to leave. See how he reacts to this, if he is upset and doesn't want to leave, is truly sorry and apologetic and truly upset than you can consider counseling, but don't give in right away. On the other hand, if he just says ok and leaves, a divorce is the next step. Sorry
mine cheated then swore he would never do it again I tried to forgive him but then there he was on the net chatting up something he found on a sex site, I kicked him out i deserve better
if they were just friends why would he not want to introduce u? i know u love him and its really hard to catch the man u love and trusted with your heart cheating on u. but do u really think u will ever be able to feel the same about him after knowing this? mostly it would depend on his level of remorse, if u think u can forgive, and his willingness to acknowledge that what he did he knows hurt u and what will u do when and if it happens again? does he love u as much as u love him?
Its your life love but if u are 100% sure,then show him the door. If he done it once it likley it will happen again,but you know him best ,good luck
tell him how hurt you are by this and ask why he didn't talk to you,keep him close by you for next few months and watch how he behaves..think about your bodylanuage with him and compare it to theirs but do give him the benefit of the doubt if you think he deserves it..i wish you all the luck in the world...
Dear...I am very sorry to know about you..,before taking any serious step (action) pls. try to get some more clear cut evidence against him cause you are married..,and whoever answered to your question, most of them are not married and of course they are not aware of the seriousness of a married life..,especially if you have kids..,





When you found out that ';your husband was sitting with a girl in a bar'; doesn't mean that he is cheating...,and how can you make 100% sure that he is cheating just with that.?





It is easy to cheat back as revenge..,or an extreame step like divorce and all.., so please take caution and analys everything before taking a serious decision as I mention before...good luck.
Sorry to be blunt but he obviously doesn't want YOU. Move on and find someone that does want YOU and only YOU 24/7!
offs wtf are you doing asking this question, you know the answer............ talk to him, isn't that what marriage and relationships are all about? Trust, honesty and conversation? grrrrrr!!!!
If you are certain in your own mind that he is in fact cheating on you, then take the zero tolerance approach, i.e, the first time is the last time. Five years married is quite awhile, however...its still early enough in the marriage to catch a cheat--or indeed be caught cheating . If he IS cheating...then bin him, cheaters ALWAYS cheat again, males as well as females...non can be trusted again.
If he's cheated on you this early in your marriage he'll probably do it again. Who told you he was cheating? What was their motive? Maybe another one of his 'conquests'?


You need a 'night of the long knives' sit down together, no alcohol!! and talk about your worries. Listen carefully to what he says, if he isn't prepared to do this then you probably do have to think seriously about moving on. Do you have children? If not then don't!! It's much harder to split up when kids are involved, not impossible though, and better for kids to see both parents happy and separate than miserable and together!